pregnancy fears

LegacyUser

I'm a 33 year old woman lucky enough to be in a strong relationship for the past 3 years. We've been living separately for the past 2 years because we couldn't get jobs in the same town at the same time and were trying to save money. Neither of us are very well paid, but take whatever we can get, and these are usually short-term contracts. For me these contracts have been very short, sometimes 6 months, so I have no maternity benefits and no job security (despite obviously looking for permanent work). We want exactly the same things out of life - children, a nice house, a good lifestyle, but things have been tough financially. Anyway neither of us want to wait any longer. We can't afford to get married yet but we want to start trying for a baby. Obviously this means we'll be living together - I will be leaving at the end of my current contract (in 1 month) and going to live with him in his town, where we will have to rent a place to live. The reason I am moving to be with him rather than the other way around is because my job situation has far less potential to progress anywhere - I've been hovering around the bottom level for years now with no opportunity to climb the ladder despite having qualifications. I do however enjoy the work I do, but realise it wouldn't be enough to live on in terms of paying for childcare even if I did get a job straight after pregnancy. My partner, while finding it difficult to get permanent work, is in an industry with many opportunities so it makes sense for him to stay working where he is, plus our families are nearer there.
I'm terrified of these changes. I want a baby but I'm scared of being bored, lonely and out of work. My opportunities, if I ever had any, will be zero after a year or two has passed. I'm also scared of our precarious financial situation, as there will be only one wage earner. Can anyone offer me any words of advice, encouragement, warnings??? It would be much appreciated.

Synyster Shadow

Can't comment on the work issues as such but money I can. Me and the hubby got married a year ago it was after 2 years been together. We both knew exactly what we wanted and after the wedding we wanted to start tryin for a baby. Happens I managed to get pregnant 5 weeks after the wedding. I had applied and got accepted into a nursing course and I try'd to keep it goin but I had a few things holding me back while pregnant. Mainly morning sickness 24/7 and I had SPD which any woman who has had it will tell you it's not nice at all and work placement would never have worked while I got to 8 months pregnant. My hubby had a job and he got injured and his boss sacked him just before baby arrived. Things are pretty much still at that level now and baby is 10 weeks. People say babies are expensive and in some ways are when you think about cots and buggies and so on but formula and nappies not so much. We could have been better off before having a baby but honestly I wouldn't change a thing and I'd be sick all over again for another baby down the line. At the end of the day it's how ye feel not what anyone else thinks and you will think 'oh my god can I handle this' but instincts and all the rest kick in and it's so different when it's your own instead of babysitting for someone else. I say seize the moment if it happens it happens if not you have fun tryin and you'll be closer to your partner