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  • 19-06-2013 10:59pm
    #1
    apollonia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭


    I am in relationship with my partner for over 6 years.... and at this point we should be married and maybe have kids, but I don't know what I feel anymore and whats worse I think about other man sometimes....
    Was anyone in this situation? Its a nighmare, because I feel I love him and I don't want to hurt him and still I miss something.......
    I know if I leave him I would be depressed for long time, also he would be heart broken.
    Any advice please what wrong with me..

    :(


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  • #2
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Do you think you should be married and have children because of the time you have been together and that it is the "done thing". There is no time limit or schedule of events by which life / family / marriage should happen. You don't have to listen to anybody else's time table, just go with your own instinct.

    Or is it that you want to be married to this partner and have children with this partner, and it hasn't happened yet? If so, then you have to consider - why has it not happened?

    Have you and your partner discussed the future or are you just going on as normal with no clear idea about what you both want?

    if you are thinking about a specific other man (and not just other men in general) then it doesn't sound great, but it doesn't necessarily mean things are doomed in your current relationship.

    Do you know what you want OP? Maybe talking with somebody could help you work it out.


  • #3
    apollonia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭apollonia


    I should post it in relationship issues, sorry, thought I did.

    I have simplified my "story" to not to be to boring.

    To answer your question -I don't think we "should" because people would think so, or my mum etc, I just mean we "should" both want this at this point..
    -and no I don;t think about any particular man, just in general I think (I am afraid) I could fall in love one day with someone else if I meet someone I really like.
    It breaks my heart, but its the way I feel and I am complitely lost..


  • #4
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    I think you have your answer about what you want. Do you know what your partner wants?


  • #5
    apollonia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭apollonia


    December2012 wrote: »
    I think you have your answer about what you want. Do you know what your partner wants?

    No, I don't. Because how I could want to hurt someone I love.


  • #6
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Well only the pair of you know your relationship.

    You wouldn't be breaking up with them to hurt them.


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  • #7
    apollonia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16 ✭apollonia


    If there is someone who felt the same, please share how it was and what you did about it.
    I was never so confused with my feelings. :(


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