Friends with an ex???

ruaille buaille

Hi so I was really good friends with this guy for a few months and so we decided to take the plunge and start going out together. Everything was going great for a few weeks and then we had an argument over something stupid and split up. The whole thing only lasted 2 months and I regret that we ever got together. It seemed like a good idea at the time cause we were such good friends but really in a romantic way it could never work. My question is - Is it possible for us to go back to being friends now? We havent spoken since we broke up 2 weeks ago and I miss him in my life

P. Breathnach

It's possible, but I suspect far too early to suggest it to him.

Give it another few weeks, and then test the water with a friendly text, the sort you might have sent before you tried to develop a relationship.

Meauldsegosha

I'm very good friends with an ex so it is possible. However it took us about a year to get to that point.

Two weeks is probably too soon. I'd give it another few weeks before getting in contact.

CaraMay

Do you want to be friends with a view to getting back together.?

ruaille buaille

No I dont want to get back together with him, I'd just like it if we could hang out together as friends like we used to. Im afraid if I ask him he might get the wrong idea and think I want to get back with him.

beks101

What sort of terms did you end on, was it mutual or was there a dumper/dumpee?

If you did the dumping, I'd say there's a chance he still has feelings and wasn't altogether happy about the split. Which probably means friendship isn't on the cards any time soon.

If it was mutual, I'd say you're safe to at least broach a conversation about it.

Whatever you do, just make sure you respect his feelings.

ruaille buaille

Well it was mutual really with him doing the actual dumping but we were both thinking it wasnt working out for a few days. We have a lot of the same friends so I suspect we'll bump into each other eventually. I wonder if we'll be able to get past this and be proper friends though

P. Breathnach

ruaille buaille wrote: »

.... I wonder if we'll be able to get past this and be proper friends though

You can't tell. We here have even less chance of telling, as we don't know either of you personally.

All you can do is try for it, and hope that you can become friends again. It's a situation where you have nothing to lose, and the possibility of a gain. Just be careful not to force things: people need time to get over breakups.

ruaille buaille

Thats really great advice, thanks. I'm gonna give a few weeks to cool off first and then suggest we meet as friends.