Supplying clothing for children at weekends

StingrayGC

I would be grateful if someone could advise me, I have recently divorced from my wife, we have went through the courts and agreed an amount of maintenance for the children which I believe is very reasonable, recently when the kids have come to stay with me at the weekend, I started to notice that the standard of the cloths which they brought with them was very poor to say the least and in one particular weekend my ex wife only sent one spare pair of socks and underwear for my son, I was annoyed at this and sent her a very matter of fact email asking her to supply suitable and adequate clothing for their stay, she replied to this email stating that she had no legal obligation to supply clothing while the kids were in my charge, this weekend when I went to pick up the kids she had supplied no clothing atoll, my son aged 8 was still in his wet football kit from football training, my question really is who is responsibility for supplying clothing for my children when they come to stay with me for the weekend and summer holidays, I was under the impression that the maintenance which I paid went towards buying clothing for my children.

aaakev

Thats very petty on your wifes part not to mention unfair to your kids. Its not unreasonable to expect the kids who live with her have clean clothes when they go to stay with you

afatbollix

Your wife is being very cruel to your kids using them to get back at you.


Its very sad. Sorry I have no other advice.

SVI40

I'd a similar experience. Kids lived with their mother, when she wasn't breaching the access orders, and they did stay with me, they had poor clothing, insufficient etc. At the end of the day, I just bought them stuff, which stayed with me, for when I did get to see them.

Some years on, my children now live with me, and remember all that kind of stuff. They ask why she did it, why she would not let them see me, talk to me.

She's a very silly woman, children are far more tuned in than many people give them credit for.

Hang in there, the years will fly by, and they will remember all the right things you did for them.

At the end of the day, I found it wasn't worth all the hassle of going to court, or down the legal route.

Best of luck!

January

Unfortunately some women can be petty like that and I don't believe there is a law saying she has to provide them with adequate clothing while they are with you.

I'd just buy them clothes yourself and keep them, send them back in the clothes they came in (cleaned of course I wouldn't be as petty as your ex) because if you send them back in the new stuff you can bet your ass she wouldn't send it back to you again.

LegallyAbroad

Why don't you just buy them clothes for when they stay with you?

You hardly expect your wife to have all the burden of purchasing clothes?

Mind you, it is very petty on her part.