Have I done the right thing?

magicwok

I split up with the girl i've been seeing for the last 7 months last week due to the fact that i just wasnt that attracted to her, one of the nicest girls i've ever met but recently i saw it as more of a really good friendship as apposed to a relationship as i realized i just didnt get that spark thats needed and constantly found myself looking at other women, i'm very upset that maybe i've been foolish, is lust a big thing required for a healthy relationship?

judgefudge

You did the right thing. In fact it's admirable that you can recognise when it's just not quite right, and don't just continue coasting along.

Sexual/physical attraction is hugely important I think in a relationship. It's the main thing that defines the difference between friendship and relationships. If you weren't too pushed 7 months in I doubt the attraction would have grown so it was best to get out early. It's unfortunate but I'm sure you'll meet someone who's nice and does it for you soon enough

magicwok

judgefudge wrote: »

You did the right thing. In fact it's admirable that you can recognise when it's just not quite right, and don't just continue coasting along.

Sexual/physical attraction is hugely important I think in a relationship. It's the main thing that defines the difference between friendship and relationships. If you weren't too pushed 7 months in I doubt the attraction would have grown so it was best to get out early. It's unfortunate but I'm sure you'll meet someone who's nice and does it for you soon enough

Thanks for your reply, I realised and said it to her that I could have coasted along with it for years but that it's better that I didn't waste anymore time.

Merkin

You did the right thing, attraction is the cornerstone of any loving relationship

Cupcake_Crisis

You did the right thing op, she would have been hurt a lot more if you just carried on. Sexual chemistry is very important, and I'm sure she understands that.

December2012

Absolutely you did the right thing.