What women want?

King Olaf Bandylegs

Ladies,
Can a mere humble male ask some sage advice for such a gorgeous and intelligent lot? Ok that's enough buttering up.
Myself and partner have been together for 12 years and are very lucky to be in a happy loving relationship. We are both relatively open sexually with each other and enjoy a good sexlife apart from three small ones doing their best to sabotage it at every opportunity . My wife is great at surprising me with lingerie/toys etc to keep things fresh. As I said I'm a lucky guy . Anyhow here's the rub. In an effort to return the compliment, is there an equivalent to the lingerie etc from the male perspective that can surprise/excite a women. I would consider myself attentive and spoil her as much as possible. Going out and candle lit dinners are difficult with the small ones about! Is there "wow" factor that a guy can do that has the same effect as a coat falling to the floor to reveal an outfit/lingerie underneath? And yes I could talk to her but where's the surprise in that? It's so easy to push a males button, is there a secret female one. Can't see me jumping out in suspenders working. .
Thanks ladies, I await embarrassment, advice and secrets.

rainbow kirby

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