Just made homeless- What should I do.

joeyrotten

I recently had to move from my home in Galway because me and my mothers boyfriend REALLY didnt get on. I gave my mother an ultimatum and she chose her boyfriend. I have moved to Dublin to my girlfriends parents home. I have been staying here for a month now and its time for me to go- Is there anything I could do to stop myself sleeping on the street??

The Hill Billy

Hi OP - The good folk in the Personal Issues forum may be better placed to provide you with advice. Best of luck!

Moved from Dublin County North.

tHB

Firehen

joeyrotten wrote: »

I recently had to move from my home in Galway because me and my mothers boyfriend REALLY didnt get on. I gave my mother an ultimatum and she chose her boyfriend. I have moved to Dublin to my girlfriends parents home. I have been staying here for a month now and its time for me to go- Is there anything I could do to stop myself sleeping on the street??

Rent a room?

SunnyDub1

Sorry to hear that.

Why do you have to leave your girlfriends parents house? Is there anyway you could stay on longer providing you are contributing to your stay (helping cleaning up, jobs around the house etc)

have you any money income at all?

TOOYOUNGTODIE

You could rent a place, who is to blame for you being 'homeless'
You are!

On a serious note, if you have to move out, stay in a hostel until you get rnt sorted, that or go home with your tail between your legs

Uriel.

Obviously, the first most clear option is to go back to your mother's place. Though without knowing (or wanting to know) the situation as to the ultimatum you gave etc... I don't know how practical that is.

Galway to Dublin is a long move. I presume your GF is in Dublin also?

Are you working? I am guessing not. You should try get some sort of a job before you leave your GF's parents.

Not an easy situation to be honest, although without knowing the circumstances of your case it's difficult to advise.

Merkin

Have they actually requested that you leave? Do they know that if you are to pack your bags you have nowhere else to go? Homelessness is a very difficult hole to dig yourself out from so I wouldn't be proactively choosing it as an option if there are any other choices available to you. You may feel in your current situation that you should leave but instead you should sit down with your girlfriend and her parents, explain the situation and promise to be out of there as soon as you can afford to get yourself on your feet. Are you working or signing on?

joeyrotten

I am 20. I cant live at my mothers, her boyfriend is an alcoholic and he gets very abusive when he's drunk, especially towards me. This is the money situation- I have none, I applied in Galway for social welfare but the claim didnt have time to finish. I have BEGGED employers for work with no luck, yes my mother knows I have no place to live. My relatives in Tipperary live in small apartments and dont have space or want me.

joeyrotten

I am not wecome at my mothers any more, its not an option. Just to be clear.

sReq | uTeK

joeyrotten wrote: »

I am not wecome at my mothers any more, its not an option. Just to be clear.

Surely you can talk to the social to get them to progress your claim quickly under the circumstances.

joeyrotten

Should I go to the socail welfare office in Dublin then? Do you think that would work?

sReq | uTeK

joeyrotten wrote: »

Should I go to the socail welfare office in Dublin then? Do you that would work?

I would ring them and quickly i believe they close at 5, under the circumstances I'm sure they would progress your claim quickly, however you should state you are still living with your mother, if they think you're living with your girlfriends family at the moment you won't be eligible.

Tell them you are visiting, you traveled down you want to get out of the house as he is abusive and you have a flat lined up but need to progress quickly in order to obtain a deposit, you may be eligible for a supplement in the mean time to keep you going.

joeyrotten

My mother told the social welfare I was in Dublin. She said " I didnt want it messing with my claim" I tryed to ring them they put me on hold and didnt pick up. I tryed to ring them again and no answer.

joeyrotten

I assume my claim is closed because of this (which I was registered about 2 months ago- I get 100 A week so thats about 800 quid I really could have used)

Gatling

sReq | uTeK wrote: »

I would ring them and quickly i believe they close at 5, under the circumstances I'm sure they would progress your claim quickly, however you should state you are still living with your mother, if they think you're living with your girlfriends family at the moment you won't be eligible.

Tell them you are visiting, you traveled down you want to get out of the house as he is abusive and you have a flat lined up but need to progress quickly in order to obtain a deposit, you may be eligible for a supplement in the mean time to keep you going.

Op won't get rent assistance till he's been renting and paying rent for 6 months

Konata

Get into the nearest Social Welfare office in Dublin as soon as possible. Don't be sitting there at home letting them put you on hold eternally - if you're in the office and queue up, they'll have to see you eventually. Explain the situation and find out what you are entitled to or what you need to do to be entitled to it. I'd get down there first thing tomorrow morning if I were you. I'm shocked that you've been in this situation for a month without attempting to get it sorted.

You haven't answered the question regarding your girlfriend's family yet - are they asking you to move out or are you just feeling like you should? I know it must be crap to have to bung up with them but unless they're insisting you leave very soon, you might have to put up with it for another wee while (depending on the social welfare situation). Once you've been to the office and found out the story, sit your girlfriend's parents down and explain to them exactly what you'll be getting social welfare office and when you'll be in a position to get your own home. I don't really know because you haven't talked much about them, but they might be accommodating and allow you to stay until you've got your feet on the ground. Just make sure you do as much as you can around the house to help out while you're staying there!

The most important thing is to get down to that social welfare office asap.

Gatling

Probably get answers in the state benefits forum

joeyrotten

The reason I have not been to the social welfare office yet is because today was the day my mother contacted me informing me she had told the social welfare office that I am in Dublin.

I cant stay at my girlfriends house any longer; she already shares a room with her 2 brothers in a 2 bedroom apartment.

I will go to the clinic and social welfare tomorrow and see if they can assist me in some way. Hopefully I will find a job before I become completely homeless...

Thanks for all the replies so far, I appreciate those trying to help.

Esoteric_

OP, check this link out with regards to homelessness -

http://www.dublincity.ie/Housing/Homeless/Pages/Ifyouarehomeless.aspx

It tells you who to contact, when, how and what to do.

If you become homeless, you can apply to be placed in a hostel. After a time there (a period of months, and be warned, it's not a nice place!), you can be housed, and go on the housing list.

You can also get the homeless unemployment benefit.

It is for people who are at risk of homelessness, to try prevent people from sleeping rough, so get in there first thing tomorrow and talk to them, get everything in motion so that you're not left on the streets.

Lux23

I would go here OP and get some advice.

Prevention Services - Focus Ireland
Advice & Information
Our experience indicates that early access to advice and information is crucial in preventing homelessness and supporting people out of homelessness. Our Advice & Information services in Dublin offer advice and information on accessing short-term and permanent housing, addiction-related issues and accessing health services. We also provide a link to Community Welfare Officers and other services.

We provide information and advice from a number of locations in Dublin.

The Housing Advice & Information service, based in the Coffee Shop in Eustace Street Temple Bar, provides advice and assistance from Monday to Friday 10.30am-5pm. We also offer an Advice & Information service in our John’s Lane West offices from 5pm-8pm Monday to Friday.

Who is the service for?
Individuals and families in need of advice and information on housing and preventing homelessness.

Application/Referral Process:
Drop-in, phone or email.

Address of Service:
15 Eustace St.
Temple Bar
Dublin 2

Contact Details:
Tel: 01 671 2555 (Eustace Street)
01 525 0240 (John’s Lane West)
Email: dublinadvice@focusireland.ie

5-6 John’s Lane West
Dublin 8

joeyrotten

The social welfare are going to assist me it seems, hopefully I will be able to get the money together and move out of here.

I would like to say a BIG help to those offering advice- advice which I followed- I really appreciate it. Everyone was a big help thanks- I may drop a post if things go south again, everything up in the air at the moment.

Thanks again!

Lux23

Best of luck Joey, you will be on your feet in no time I am sure.

LeoB

Best of luck Joey. I hope things work out for you.

Its probably easy for us to sit here and type advice but set yourself a few achievable targets, like in 1 month (with some help) I will have a place to live, In 1 month I will have a job of some description.

I really hope you dont end up homeless. Best of luck