would you go on radio to out your cheating friend?

hoodwinked

considering the social media society we live in people are still using local media outlets (or national media outlets) to publicly out cheaters...

On Joe.ie picked up the story from Cork of a woman who went on air to 'ask advice' on should she tell her friend his girlfriend cheated on him?

http://joe.ie/news-politics/current-affairs/audio-cheating-cork-woman-goes-on-radio-to-tell-her-ex-friend-off-0038034-1


and of course not so long ago we had the dublin man caught cheating:
http://joe.ie/news-politics/current-affairs/dublin-man-caught-cheating-on-his-missus-live-on-4fm-0033844-1


having currently found myself in a somewhat similar predicament where one of my neighbors is sleeping/seeing (they have been 'dating' since august) one of my friends and he happens to also be married with a young daughter.

i never once thought of taking it to the airwaves, i just cut contact with them both, even though it was hard and i have nothing more to do with the situation. but apparently thats not enough for some people

so after hours what would you do?


tl:dr = would you go on air to out a friend who's cheating?

December2012

No, bu I would tell my friend.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

hoodwinked wrote: »

tl:dr = would you go on air to out a friend who's cheating?

No, but if I did, I'd go somewhere a bit more morally conscious tham joe.ie.

Mr Benevolent

Just let them do what they want. It's literally none of your business.

hoodwinked

Mr Benevolent wrote: »

Just let them do what they want. It's literally none of your business.

its fair enough to say its none of my business i agree with you, its why i just left them to it...

im not their judge or jury

but it would seem there are people out there who feel its ok to out their friends on the radio, am i one of the few who think this is taking it too far?


i wouldn't tell on a friend but thats just me, i find its usually a 'shoot the messenger' kind of situation, likewise i wouldn't tell my friend if i knew she was being cheated on.

am i wrong to stay out of it? or is it wrong to broadcast the facts?

1ZRed

No, snitches end up in ditches. Fuck that

grizzly

Mr Benevolent wrote: »

Just let them do what they want. It's literally none of your business.

Does this still apply if the only person you know well is the one being cheated on?

professore

I think you should tell your friend - otherwise what sort of friend are you? Going on the airwaves or social media is a different story altogether.

wandatowell

You can tell by her voice that she is just a jealous, nosey bint who loves sticking her nose into peoples business.

She'd wanna grow up and stop eating

af_thefragile

professore wrote: »

I think you should tell your friend - otherwise what sort of friend are you? Going on the airwaves or social media is a different story altogether.

Wouldn't the friend already know that he's cheating? It'ld hardly be a revelation to him...

professore

af_thefragile wrote: »

Wouldn't the friend already know that he's cheating? It'ld hardly be a revelation to him...

Yeah, you get my point ... if I was friendly with the OH I would tell her, but if not, none of my business ...

Matt_Trakker

I follow a lad on Twitter and a while ago...good while actually, he outed his mate for riding a hooker in his bed.

2nd dude was living with the first lad coz his young one had thrown him out, he was supposed to be out shopping for his kid's birthday present but was in this first chap's house riding some hooker.

1st lad was out at work or something.
Another housemate heard a commotion in the bedroom and knowing the first chap was out, kicked the door down (armed with his piece of crap airgun) coz he thought there were getting robbed or something. Walked in and caught 1st lad balls deep in it & hard at it.

I think the 1st guy wasn't so pissed off about the hooker or the dude cheating on his missus who'd kicked him out, or that he was spending his child welfare money on a whore instead of buying a present for his kid.........but they made a huge blood & brown mess on his bed sheets.

Sometimes twitter should have more than 140 characters though, took all afternoon for him to to get thru all of that.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

No that's a horrible thing to do, imagine hearing on the radio that you're being cheated on.

I would however tell my friend if they were being cheated on, but only a good friend not just someone I'd say hi to on a night out.

Sauve

Neither of those people are being friends to anybody.
They have nobodies best interest at heart but their own.

AK333

I have a case of double standards - no I wouldn't tell cos I wouldn't want to be piggy in the middle BUT if it was my husband cheating, I would definately want to know - you'd hate to be taken for a mug, especially in a small town where the nosey neighbours would all know your business. Having said that, I'm so glad Dave was outed by potty mouthed Pamela - you wasn't so cocky when he heard her voice.

1ZRed

AK333 wrote: »

I have a case of double standards - no I wouldn't tell cos I wouldn't want to be piggy in the middle BUT if it was my husband cheating, I would definately want to know - you'd hate to be taken for a mug, especially in a small town where the nosey neighbours would all know your business. Having said that, I'm so glad Dave was outed by potty mouthed Pamela - you wasn't so cocky when he heard her voice.

But wouldn't you just be humiliated in front of the whole town with everyone knowing how they found out about your cheating husband?

Fair enough wanting to know but that's not worth it. I think I'd kill anyone who'd think it their business to say all that on live radio just as I would a cheating husband.

AK333

1ZRed wrote: »

But wouldn't you just be humiliated in front of the whole town with everyone knowing how they found out about your cheating husband?

Fair enough wanting to know but that's not worth it. I think I'd kill anyone who'd think it their business to say all that on live radio just as I would a cheating husband.

what i meant is i'd like to know, ie my friend to tell me, not that I'd want them to go on national radio or tv. That's why I had a giggle at Dave's predictament. He was such a cocky little sh1te, blaming the girlfriend cos he couldn't keep it in his pants and didn't have the balls to end the relationship and then he was outed by someone who recognised his voice. what a dick

Dravokivich

To be honest, I don't really see why people would think to consult a local radio show about it. If anything, you'd ring into a show on the other side of the country no?

Even then, I'd hate if any of my public life was volunteered onto the airwaves by someone else. No matter how right they feel it is to do, if there is anything of concern they hold for my well being, the place to share it, is privately with me. Not for everyone to recognise the voice over the radio and figure it all out themselves.

That "Dave" fella had it coming being all smug about it himself, by the looks of things. But "Emma" shouldn't have rang up a show about it.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

What about the ones who out themselves live on air?!

I was listening to one of the shows on iradio a good while back and this boyfriend suspected his girlfriend was cheating and gave her number to the dj so as he could prank her.
The dj made up this story about them doing a survey or some such about cheating in relationships and with the promise of some sort of prize, she spilled all.

Then it was played on air.

donegal_road

maybe we should embrace the French tradition of the 'cinq a sept'
They seem ok with it, why wouldn't it work here?

hatrickpatrick

Unless it was a very close friend I simply wouldn't get involved in someone else's relationship. In the long run both sides end up hating you, as I know only too well myself (told a girl she was being cheated on, she didn't believe me, she turned on me and stayed with the gobsh!te) so realistically speaking, I don't want to know these things. Ignorance is bliss unless it's actually YOUR relationship.

Micky Dolenz

People should mind their own business. Gossipers are going to gossip. Really hate that trait in people. If they aren't talking to you, they are talking about you.

LizT

hoodwinked wrote: »

tl:dr = would you go on air to out a friend who's cheating?

I wouldn't consider someone a friend if their first course of action was to ring up a radio station rather than actually discuss it with me tbh. I certainly would never do anything like that with any of my friends.

The Queen of England

If you know of a friend who is cheating, it's major dilemma.

On one hand, you don't want to rat your friend out - that does nobody any favours.

On the other hand, if you do nothing, then it plays heavily on your mind.

The only real sensible option is such a case is to blackmail them - money / sex / favours are great distractions for a troubled mind and forcing them to give you something in return for your discretion teaches them that cheating has it's price.

hoodwinked

The Queen of England wrote: »

On the other hand, if you do nothing, then it plays heavily on your mind.

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not really though only when i see things online or hear things on the radio like this does it come into my mind...

its none of my business hence i stay out of it...


i don't think its up to me to go telling anyone what they are up to!

Ficheall

So.. ignoring the outing on the radio thing for a moment - is the general AH consensus that if your friend were being cheated on, you wouldn't tell them?

HondaSami

Better to stay out of other people's private lives imo, guaranteed the person will not thank you for telling them.

dazed+confused

Exactly, it is none of your business and it is more likely to blow up in your face than have the desired effect.

biko

Photos
Blackmail
Profit

Fr_Dougal

The calls are obviously setup, nothing to see here...move along...

Ficheall

HondaSami wrote: »

Better to stay out of other people's private lives imo, guaranteed the person will not thank you for telling them.

And do you need to be thanked for doing something for someone you call a friend?
Fair enough, if, in a similar situation yourself, you would prefer not to be told, I suppose...

tdv123

Never rat on your friends and always keep your mouth shut.

Ficheall

Ficheall wrote: »

So.. ignoring the outing on the radio thing for a moment - is the general AH consensus that if your friend were being cheated on, you wouldn't tell them?

I'd be genuinely disgusted with any so-called friend who knew I was being cheated on but didn't tell me. That's not being a friend.

hoodwinked

Candie wrote: »

I'd be genuinely disgusted with any so-called friend who knew I was being cheated on but didn't tell me. That's not being a friend.

easier said then done imo,

if you are madly in love you aren't going to believe your friend over your boyfriend...

and he'll probably paint you as a jealous troublemaker which will end the friendship anyway....