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  • 22-04-2013 11:56am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    dont know what to say really just wondering is this normal? my sincere apologies for the length

    im a 34 male - and well to be honest life is just hollow for me at mo. nothing going on at all - just feels mundane and everythings a chore. outside looking in everything i guess would look fine - started a new job after been unemployed for a few years, can laugh and smile alot with friends but inside I just feel empty, a failure with no future in anything. while I have thought about it suicide isnt an option as it would just kill my parents and my sisters and well I wouldnt want to do that to them. it justs comes back again and agin to me how alone i am - although I have friends alot of them are far away now or are married etc that just means theres not many to socialise, call round to or anything really. i dont make friends easily.. people will say I'm shy and reserved which to be honest is true but from past experience theres a reason i dont set myself up for a fall, best to stay in background and say nothing unless you've got something important to say rather than constantly saying something that is pointless. others will say I'm negative but i dont think I am that i'm just been realistic and setting a low goal.. if you miss well at least you tried and didnt make an absolute mess out of something and theres less disappointment

    friends ask me for advice and not wanting to sound boastful I think i give plenty of good advice because I listen to what they have to say but I just dont feel comfortable telling them anything as they might think I'm weak or just trying to outdo them by playing down their problem. theres no one really i can talk to dont have a gf - never really had more a series of one night stands and relationships that lasted a few weeks and petered out; dont know if its because i'm insecure or got anxiety problems or what, I'm just really wary of putting myself out there for anything - new job, girl whatever .. I'll always have an excuse or doubt myself... like i've tried online dating but it always peters out as i think its all a cod and someones going to have a laugh at my expense - same with jobs and everything else, just put my head down and try to avoid been noticed... the total irony been that I joke with my few friends how they should bow down before me as i'm superior to them..

    i dont know .. any advice would be appreciated... my sincere apologies for the length and waffle of this post


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  • #2
    RossFixxxed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭RossFixxxed


    Hey what you are describing is a common enough feeling. It can happen anyone for a large number of reasons.

    None of us can tell you what exactly is wrong, however, I would urge you to visit your GP. There could be physical / psychological / lifestyle issues that we cannot possibly discern from a forum post.

    You would be amazed the difference that can be made to this. I've used this expression before but I have been walked through my very own private hell and emerged on the far side, stronger and more able. I'm not 100% on track but I am unrecoginsable from the mess that I was in.

    There is help out there and I really really really recommend you go for it. It can and will make a difference. Stay on here too and we'll try to answer any questions or concerns you may have. We are here for you, we know how you feel and we WANT to help. However, you need to make the first move and make an appointment now. Do it this minute, seriously, abandon what you are doing and print your post out to bring with you.

    I know it seems like a big deal, you're thinking a doctor is a bit extreme maybe. I get that. Believe me I do. But do it anyway, take my word, or someone else on here's word for it.

    Improving your quality of life is so important. You deserve it.


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