Told Girlfriend I had a full licence when I dont.

LegacyUser

So I'm going out with the OH about 3 years.

I was mad about her at the start and stupidly whilst walking down the road we seen an L driver and she commented about how she hated them, she then asked me did I have a full license to which I lied and said yes.

I still have this hanging over me, it's the only thing I lied about entering the relationship but I've stuck to the lie,

Any advice on how to rectify this ? Due to be married next year, the obvious one is go do the full test.....but aside from that, I'm worried if I tell her the truth I could lose her....

OP, your thread title wasnt clear, so I've edited it for you.

Ah_Yeah

I really don't think you'll lose your girlfriend over something so small. Just tell her.

Raminahobbin

Why does she hate Learner drivers so much?? I would be extremely surprised if such a ridiculous hatred outweighed her love for the man she is about to marry. Just tell her- this is one of those things that the longer it's left the worse it's getting in your own head, when she probably won't give a toss.

Neyite

Cant you just write it off as a jokey remark you said at the time? She said she hated L drivers so you made a joke that you weren't one so she'd continue to like you? Say that you assumed she knew you were joking, as she must have been- she doesnt actually hate them, does she? after all she was one herself!

ABajaninCork

Are you driving now, OP? You do know that driving unaccompanied is against the law - right?? But as much as I hate seeing obvious learners driving unaccompanied, the kind of ignorance displayed by your GF I hate even more. Does she drive? If she does, she does know she had to learn once, doesn't she??

The only way out of this that I can see is to take your test ASAP. Have you done your 12 lessons yet? I'm assuming you already have the Theory test done and out of the way...

I would agree with Raminahobbin. Tell her. It's a silly lie that got out of hand, but like Neyite says, you can pass it off as a joke. After all - she was joking when she said she hated learners. Wasn't she?

Overheal

youvce been dating for 3 years, are getting married, and yet you were afraid to tell her you had an L-permit?

Why?

Girl: "OMG I hate people who do ___"
Boy: "I do that..."
Girl: "...Oh" /egg on face

like for real, whats wrong with being confident about the facts? Its not like she was going to break up with you over an L-plate. But damn, that would make a great PI thread. "Had to break up with boyfriend. 3 year relationship. Found out he had a learners permit... so distraught"

Merkin

dumbmistake wrote: »

I was mad about her at the start and stupidly whilst walking down the road we seen an L driver and she commented about how she hated them

LOL. I mean seriously, was she born with the gift of being able to drive? Did her mother deliver her in the hospital and then she drove herself home?

Just tell her. Or even better, use this as an opportunity to get your license asap.

LegacyUser

I did something stupid tho, she stuck me down as a named driver on her insurance a while back and I drove her car a few times, stupid I know but i've not driven her car in 6+ months now.

Look I know what I done was stupid, I have no excuse just wondering how to proceed.

GRRR and yes I've applied for my full license since this escapade.

AnonoBoy

Does this mean you've been driving without L plates the whole time? Going on motorways etc.?

You could get yourself in a heap of finey trouble for that OP.

If you're really worried then swat up and do your test.

Although down the line you know she will see your drivers licence at some point and the truth will probably out.

If I was you I'd make a point of letting her know. Have you restated that you have your licence since that one time? If not then just tell her you were joking and you thought she knew that.

MissFlitworth

dumbmistake wrote: »

I did something stupid tho, she stuck me down as a named driver on her insurance a while back and I drove her car a few times, stupid I know but i've not driven her car in 6+ months now.

Look I know what I done was stupid, I have no excuse just wondering how to proceed.

Ok - you need to tell her asap so she can take you off her insurance if you're still on there. She's effectively lying to her insurance company at the moment and has paid a price for her policy based on the information you gave her about yourself. Insurance companies don't take kindly to that kind of thing in the event she needs to make a claim

kylith

Just come clean, OP; you fibbed about having your licence to impress her and, as time went on, it got harder and harder to come clean.

If you lose her over something this trivial then she wouldn't have been worth having anyway.

davet82

she'll either think its cute you were so mad about her that you would lie over something so silly or she'll take the mickey out you a little, that would be the normal reaction I reckon, relax!

Kosseegan

O/p what you did was immature and reckless. You have maintained this deceit for long enough. You should own up now and hope for forgiveness.

CarMe

I think It's so bizarre that you couldn't, in all your time together, just come out with it? Is that really a good basis for a marriage? Especially to be either too proud or scared to admit it when she was putting you on her insurance?
I don't drive so to be honest the wrecklessness etc isn't even what I have an issue with, just seems so odd that you have never been comfortable enough to come out with it.

sozbox

dumbmistake wrote: »

I did something stupid tho, she stuck me down as a named driver on her insurance a while back and I drove her car a few times, stupid I know but i've not driven her car in 6+ months now.

Look I know what I done was stupid, I have no excuse just wondering how to proceed.

GRRR and yes I've applied for my full license since this escapade.

So she was a learner driver at some point too?

Big Bag of Chips

How did she put you on her insurance? She would have had to send a copy of both your licences to her insurance company..

Did she do this?

I'm guessing she figured it out at that point?

I think you're making a bigger deal of this than she will..

Stavro Mueller

I don't think you have any choice but to come clean. If you want to insure your car, for example, they ask you how many years you've had a full licence. 123.ie's drop down menu includes an option for 9+ years. Try hiding that....

LegacyUser

Raminahobbin wrote: »

Why does she hate Learner drivers so much?? I would be extremely surprised if such a ridiculous hatred outweighed her love for the man she is about to marry. Just tell her- this is one of those things that the longer it's left the worse it's getting in your own head, when she probably won't give a toss.

You can say that you forgot to renew license for a year and you have to resit exams.

kjl

Why don't you just sit you test?

Lenmeister

Overheal wrote: »

youvce been dating for 3 years, are getting married, and yet you were afraid to tell her you had an L-permit?

Why?

Girl: "OMG I hate people who do ___"
Boy: "I do that..."
Girl: "...Oh" /egg on face

like for real, whats wrong with being confident about the facts? Its not like she was going to break up with you over an L-plate. But damn, that would make a great PI thread. "Had to break up with boyfriend. 3 year relationship. Found out he had a learners permit... so distraught"

LOL...

Ya I think you can rest assured OP she won't break up over that. But you better tell her soon about not having a full license. That whole insurance malarky could get you into some serious trouble. Not to mention her too.

Chattastrophe!

If my boyfriend first told me that he had a full licence, and then later admitted that he'd only said that to impress me, it would be no big deal - I'd find it odd, but a little amusing.

If he kept up the lie, to the extent that he would let me go ahead and let me insure him on my car, on the basis that he was a fully licenced driver, and continue to go on and drive my car on that basis - I'd be absolutely livid.

Say if you were in an accident. If her car was written off, insurance probably wouldn't cover it - in fact, she could be done for insurance fraud, for signing that you were a fully licenced driver! Which she did because she trusted you!

Honestly I'd find it hard to forgive someone for that, for making me sign legal documents - for which I could be held responsible - based on their lies. It started off as a silly little thing to impress her, but it's gone WAY too far.

If you tell her, I expect she'll be very angry and upset - but, in my opinion, it's the only right thing to do.

Pomplamousse

If you can't even tell her, the girl you plan on marrying, the truth, then you have far bigger relationship problems than a lie about a licence IMO

seamus

Make a big deal out of it, take her out for dinner, etc etc, tell her that you've something that's been eating away at you for ages, but you feel that it would be wrong not to tell her before you got married.

She'll be so relieved that you haven't cheated on her that she'll just laugh about it. And you should be prepared to be slagged.