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Don't want to be "that guy" at work

  • 27-03-2013 10:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all,

    I’m a 45 year old male who works in a medium sized open plan office .
    I’ve recently noticed, due to the increased amount of traffic to my desk that
    some of my female co-workers seem to blatantly “cover up” when talking to me.
    By this I mean there will be a very overt crossing of the arms or pulling
    closed of the cardigan/top. Maybe this is something that most female employees do,
    but I’m beginning to feel very self conscious about this ( I don’t want to be seen as the office perv).
    I’d be glad for any opinions on this, it's possible that I could be over analyzing things.

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Raminahobbin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,983 ✭✭✭Raminahobbin


    Do you stare at their chest? Just stop doing that.


  • #3
    DeltaWhite
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 666 ✭✭✭DeltaWhite


    I work in an office with all males and I sub consciously cover up all the time, previous occasions of them staring at me have caused this. I've even been asked if I had a leopard print bra on by one staff member... It's probably just because us women do it sub consciously or maybe (not saying this is true) you are looking at them sub consciously? In a harmless way, but women will notice that straight away!


  • #4
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    Unless this is a figment of your imagination, it could be that you have been doing something to creep them out. Be it staring at their chests, leering, making inappropriate remarks, touching them too much etc.


  • #5
    miamee
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional East Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 12,526 Mod ✭✭✭✭miamee


    Don't look at their chests while talking to them - no matter how discreet you think you are, you're not, women notice. If you don't do that at all, ever, in work then maybe it is just a habit of the women to cover up.

    I do it myself a lot for no good reason in the office like when I am walking out to the kitchen/loo. If I don't have pockets in my cardigan, I'll usually be pulling it around me or fiddling with buttons.

    Also - do you sit under/near the air conditioning? If it's considerably colder where you sit compared to where they sit, this might be another reason - they feel a chill at your desk area.


  • #6
    Catphish
    Closed Accounts Posts: 378 ✭✭Catphish


    Office Guy wrote: »
    Hi all,

    I’m a 45 year old male who works in a medium sized open plan office .
    I’ve recently noticed, due to the increased amount of traffic to my desk that
    some of my female co-workers seem to blatantly “cover up” when talking to me.
    By this I mean there will be a very overt crossing of the arms or pulling
    closed of the cardigan/top. Maybe this is something that most female employees do,
    but I’m beginning to feel very self conscious about this ( I don’t want to be seen as the office perv).
    I’d be glad for any opinions on this, it's possible that I could be over analyzing things.

    Thanks
    Unless you actually do stare at their chests in an obvious way, I'd say you've nothing to worry about.


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