What do you do when you are so sad you can't do anything?

LegacyUser

Just looking for some advice, please.

What do you do when getting out of bed is such an effort you are exhausted before your day has begun. When going to college is an immeasurable task. When you can't concentrate to study and are failing exams. When you have no wanting to eat, or sleep, or go to work, or do anything except escape the reality you are in.

How do you pull yourself out of the cycle.
I suffered a huge emotional loss two weeks ago and the grief is eating me. I can't afford to be the way I am, financially and college wise I am under a lot of pressure. I need to be able to concentrate to study.
I know that time is the great healer. But I simply don't have time right now. I feel like I have lost my mind.

How do you pull yourself out of this bottomless hole.
Thanks.

Ickle Magoo

Hey there OP,

First things first, if you are so sad you can't do anything then you need to make an appointment with your GP asap and tell them how you are feeling. You might consider making an appointment with a grief counsellor too.

I'd also have a word with your tutor or college liaison person and let them know you are having problems and what they can do to help you or take some of the pressure off for a bit until you are feeling better.

Don't keep it hidden and don't just hope it will go away, would be my advice. Get help and letting your GP/college know will life some of the pressure off you.

All the very best

ChunkyLover54

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What do you do when getting out of bed is such an effort you are exhausted before your day has begun. When going to college is an immeasurable task. When you can't concentrate to study and are failing exams. When you have no wanting to eat, or sleep, or go to work, or do anything except escape the reality you are in.

Your'e depressed.

The previous poster has offered some sound practical advice.

For my part I advise that, first of all, you avoid drinking any booze. If you can muster the will power then try and get out of the house and get some physical exercise like a walk or a short run.

Also, try and find someone (a friend or a family member) to talk to about your problem. In my experience, being able to articulate aloud the nature of an emotional problem can have a vital effect in reducing one's feeling of sorrow.

Taltos

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Thanks
Taltos

December2012

What you do first is exactly what you've done here - realise and acknowledge how you are.

Practically you should go and see a dr, maybe a counsellor, and talk to your superiors in work too.

A relationship breakup, a death, can greatly affect performance of your responsibilities. But sometimes the pressure of trying to not let it affect your responsibilities is stronger, and more overbearing.

You would be surprised how much telling a supervisor can help.

Time is a great healer, but if you feel you would like to heal as holistically as possible talk to your gp. Maybe some talk therapy once a week with some anti depressants would help you - maybe you need some time off - maybe the practical changes can be effected by lifestyle changes.

Good luck

Upthedubs32

My advise is based on how i deal with those crap times in life. Put it to yourself like this

How bad are things? Could they be worse? (they can always be worse) How much can i do about the situation? Can anyone close to me help?

Then i think about the rest of the world and imagine myself being in one of those places that are always in the news, and then realise how lucky i actually am already. Ireland at the moment might be a tough place to live with all the goings on but lets face it we only notice most of it becuase of how handy we had it before and in fact its actually not that bad!! Its just harder than it was to make ends meet for alot of people. And that is only a financial situation.

You took the first step by coming online and putting it out there on this forum, now get chatting to family and friends and get out there excercising and going at it hard. Take this moment of being at the bottom and give yourself a target of getting to the top!!

Kick ass at whatever you do!!

emuhead

Make an appointment to see university / college doctor and / or student counselling. Colleges make provisions for people experiencing the difficulties you've mentioned and the situation will be less stressful when you know what allowances are possible (for example, assignment extensions). But do keep them in the loop.

Best of luck

Edit - I see other posters have given similar advice already - please make getting help a priority