One night Stand?

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this.


I have being single for well over a year now. Before this, I was in a pretty serious 5 year relationship.


I haven't slept with anyone since the split from my ex, I just felt that I was never given the opportunity and tbh it wasn't something I was really out looking for or that crossed my mind often.


I am moving over to canada in a few months for a year with my sister so obviously not looking for any kind of relationship at the moment as imo it would be pointless.


I met this guy on friday night at a bar, I know him from around my area, long story short - we got chatting, clicked, had a laugh so I went back to his and slept with him.

The next morning I woke and it was a little awkward but we still managed to hold some conversation and he seemed sound enough,
we had breakfast and he then ordered me a taxi, gave me peck on the cheek when the taxi arrived, no numbers where given and that was that.

He was a nice bloke and I have nothing bad to say about him, but at the time I was slightly relived when he didn't ask for my number and it was left the way it was has I no intensions to see him again but then my friend made a comment like " Oh he didn't ask for your number" ????

as the weekend went on I started to overthink and wonder why he didn't ask for my number - which now has me thinking was a bad in bed,did I do something wrong ? Or was it just simply the fact that he knows i'm leaving and thought whats the point and has no intension of wanting anything further either.

I'm probably just been over parnoid has it was my first one nightner but What are your views on this? Is this just how one night stands work?

Roisy7

I think he assumed that it was a one-night-stand thing too. Like you said, he knows you're leaving. And you can flip it; you didn't ask for his number either. It seems to me that there was an unspoken agreement that this would be a one night thing.

I highly doubt that you were bad in bed or the experience was unpleasant for him. If you enjoyed yourself he probably did too. There was civility the next morning and ye had breakfast. He didn't chase you out of the house.

There will be plenty of new men in Canada. Just look back at this for what it was, one night of fun

dearg lady

Don't read too much into it. You enjoyed yourself, but were happy not to exchange numbers. Why would there need to be some reason he didn't ask for your number? Honestly, sometimes friends unintentionally overcomplicate things!

KKkitty

dearg lady wrote: »

Don't read too much into it. You enjoyed yourself, but were happy not to exchange numbers. Why would there need to be some reason he didn't ask for your number? Honestly, sometimes friends unintentionally overcomplicate things!

This pretty much OP. A fun night was had and needs were sated so to speak so numbers didn't need to be exchanged. You're going to Canada too so it will be a long while til you're home again so just go there have fun and enjoy the new experiences ahead.

beks101

Just be glad he didn't take your number out of awkward politeness and leave you hanging waiting for a text.

It was a one night stand, you both had fun, think no more of it.

CaraMay

Op as a small aside, one night stands are not for everyone and you seem to be somehow over invested in what happened. If its not for you the. Don't feel under pressure to have ons'... Only do it if its fun at the time and isn't a brain fry after

WellThen?

God no, 5 years in a relationship, your allowed a bit of one night riding before you set off. Stop worrying. And you were not bad in bed.

sReq | uTeK

WellThen? wrote: »

God no, 5 years in a relationship, your allowed a bit of one night riding before you set off. Stop worrying. And you were not bad in bed.

Why, were you the guy in the OP's story ?

tbh

Did you ask him for his number? If not why not?

Ando's Saggy Bottom

Seems to me you both read the situation the same and both got what you wanted, so there's little need to over scrutinize it afterwards. Enjoy the memory and move on.

Partizan

Cant see what the problem is OP. You were in a relationship for 5 years. You are now free and single so chalk down that experience as a bit of fun. You were due a good gallop now off you go and enjoy life.

Good luck with the move to Canada

Daveysil15

Maybe he's married OP? :eek: No it sounds like he just wanted to leave it at that. Don't read too much into it. It's done now. You have more important things to worry about, like moving to Canada.

One night stands can be tonnes of fun, especially if both know that that's what it is. This seems the case. Now, stop worrying about it and go enjoy Canada!