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am i being petty

  • 20-03-2013 8:04am
    #1
    thinkimafool
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭


    Looking for advice here...

    was see a girl for about 4 months.. got very intense and we both fell for each other... so just after christmas we split up no going back alot of things said in the heat of the moment.. Its coming down to trust and distance...

    so here is my problem... 2 weeks before we broke up I gave her a loan of a flat screen tv... her one broke and she had alot of expense at the time so I lent her one I had in my bedroom... so a fews after we broke up I text her looking for it back... I got no response.. I sent another text over the weekend got no response...

    So all I'm asking am I been petty in looking for it back...


Comments

  • #2
    antodeco
    Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,631 ✭✭✭✭antodeco


    I think what it comes down to is, do you need it? If you need it then no, I wouldn't think it's petty. However if you'd be asking for it back, purely for it to gather dust, then it may be perceived as being petty.

    In circumstances like this I always say that, at the time you gave it, your feelings were at a particular point. if they still were, would you ask for it back?


  • #3
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    I don't think you're being petty. You lent her something, she doesn't own it. She should return it.

    Also, was it a large or expensive model? If it's a €500 TV I certainly don't think you should just write it off.


  • #4
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    Of course you're not being petty. It says a lot about her that she wouldn't have returned it right away when you split up. Send her a text and tell her you'd like to arrange a time and day to come and pick it up and she doesn't have to be there but that you'd like it back.


  • #5
    Colonel_McCoy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Colonel_McCoy


    Call to her house when you know she is there. Be polite and ask for it back.


  • #6
    Stavro Mueller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,673 ✭✭✭Stavro Mueller


    The operative word here is 'loan'. When you loan something to someone, it means there's a return spring on it. Your ex is the one being petty. It's not hers to keep.


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  • #7
    thinkimafool
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2 ✭thinkimafool


    Thanks for the replies.... Honestly is gets to me she hasn't even mentioned it.... Ya I could do with it as my bother has just moved into a house and has no telly and funds are tight with him as he just built a house.... Its more the principle than the money side of it... I have said to her a friend of mine will call for it so ill wait to see if I get a response.


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