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Feel completely lost and looking for help/advice

  • 19-03-2013 11:59pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Okay - A few things.

    I'm in my second stint at university now and am feeling completely unmotivated, when I should be more than motivated. It's costing a lot and people have made sacrifices to put me in that position and while I hate myself for not being motivated enough, I just don't seem to be able to put the effort in.

    I've been in a rut of sorts for a year and a half, when I decided to do my leaving cert again at a time when my friends were in college. It was the worst year of my life and while I improved a lot results wise, I was constantly unhappy.

    I spend most days inside these days, because I am incredibly insecure about my weight. I was a heavy child and teenager and I managed to shed most of that weight coming to 18 years (21 now by the way). However at the moment I am after putting some back on and because of it I don't want to go out - I don't want people to see me like this. When I eat well and exercise I feel well usually, so I know I have to change this - but when before I could, now even that seems like a huge task.

    Some of my friends and family give out to me and call me a waster and whatnot, and while that is obviously what it might seem, I actually would like to go out a lot more. I make friends easily and am/was quite popular but I just seem to lack all self confidence and motivation at the moment.

    I've fallen behind in university but not to the extent that it is irretrievable. I have missed one or two assignments and I'm wondering if I could e-mail the lecturers and see if they could do anything for me? Does anybody know how I can go about feeling better and getting about? Has anybody experienced anything like this before? I'd love some help, advice or encouragement!


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  • #2
    Roisy7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Roisy7


    First off, sorry to hear about your problems OP. I think the first thing you should do is email your lecturers and tell them that you are having problems with the coursework. They generally are quite understanding but they won't be after the fact, time is marching on and all!

    OP it sounds to me like you are quite depressed at the moment. I think an appointment with a counsellor might be beneficial.

    Please pay no heed to the members of your family who are calling you a waster. You've done brilliantly to get back to college and lose the weight in the first place. It's easier not to lose weight, it's easier to stay dropped out of college. You've taken the hard option and you deserve credit.

    Certain people think college is a doddle where you just spend your time drinking but it's not at all. Pay no heed OP, you're on the right path, you just need to get back into it :)


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