Plus Guest Invites

Whiplashy

When invitations are sent out saying + guest is it acceptable to bring a friend to the wedding, or should you just RSVP for one? I'm single but have a few weddings coming up where I've gotten +1 invites. I'd like to bring a friend with me as I'd probably have more fun but is it really fair to the bride and groom? I would of course compensate for the cost of having my friend come with extra cash in the card.

Ms2011

I'm sending out plus ones to some people for my wedding & they are more than welcome to bring a friend if they so choose, I don't mind at all :-)

TAPA2012

I think it is acceptable to bring a friend! Im sure the B&G want you to have a good time and to feel comfortable! If your anyway unsure just ask them to be courteous.

evilmonkee

If the invite says +1 or similar then, IMO, its perfectly acceptable to bring a friend!

The only time I think +1 would not apply is for a child or someone who has had bad history with another guest/member of wedding party.

holding

If it says plus one, they mean plus one. Otherwise it would just be your own name on the card. I'm sure they have budgeted for a second person to come with you.

Queen-Mise

holding wrote: »

If it says plus one, they mean plus one. Otherwise it would just be your own name on the card. I'm sure they have budgeted for a second person to come with you.

Exactly so. If it is +1, then it is budgeted in, and they don't mind if you bring someone with you.

If there is no +1, then numbers are an issue.
If you wanted to bring someone in that case, I'd ask the bride/groom if they minded, if you paid the extra money for them.

Vojera

Yeah, you can definitely bring a friend. If they only meant for you to being a specific person they'd have named them. Just be sure to give their name when you rsvp, otherwise if they're doing a table plan they'll have to write "Whiplashy and Whiplashy's friend"

jkrowling

I've given +1's to some single guests I've invited who I know won't know many others at the wedding, I want them to feel comfortable and enjoy themselves so they can bring whom they like. Then I have other single friends who I haven't given a +1 to but they would be part of the close group of friends and know practically everyone going so I know they will enjoy themselves anyways?

elhal

I agree, I have given plus ones to everyone over the age of eighteen who doesnt have a husband or partner. I dont care who they bring! Some have replied that they arent going to bring a plus one as they know enough people there, either way I dont mind, I have budgeted for everyone to bring someone!

Boombastic

If it says +1 or +guest then you're free to bring someone along
if it says +partner and you don't have a partner, do not

batistuta9

If you get an invitation on your own to a wedding is it rude to ask to bring someone else with you?

Vojera

batistuta9 wrote: »

If you get an invitation on your own to a wedding is it rude to ask to bring someone else with you?

Do you know other people at the wedding? If you've someone you can pal around with then yeah, it might come across as rude.

The couple will have decided to give or not give plus ones based on their budget. It could be the case that they decided that all their friends in long-term relationships got plus ones and the rest didn't. If that's it and they give you a plus one, then they could be in a situation where other friends will ask why you got one and they didn't.

On the other hand, if you don't really know anyone else going then asking for a plus one is okay (or at least I think so). Just state your case that you don't know anyone going, and don't take the hump if they say no

batistuta9

Vojera wrote: »

Do you know other people at the wedding? If you've someone you can pal around with then yeah, it might come across as rude.

The couple will have decided to give or not give plus ones based on their budget. It could be the case that they decided that all their friends in long-term relationships got plus ones and the rest didn't. If that's it and they give you a plus one, then they could be in a situation where other friends will ask why you got one and they didn't.

On the other hand, if you don't really know anyone else going then asking for a plus one is okay (or at least I think so). Just state your case that you don't know anyone going, and don't take the hump if they say no

it's a bit more complicated, well i think it is...

it's a cousins wedding, on my fathers side of the family, though i don't know the cousin really at all, they don't live here but are getting married here.
we've met twice maybe three times, all years apart

the invitation was to me & my mother - who's split from my father but would be friendly with the mother (my aunt by marriage) of the cousin who's getting married

that aunt & another aunt by marriage who i'm not sure is going, would be the only ones from my fathers side that my mother would be friendly enough with - the reason why she was asked to the wedding

so she's kind of disappointed with the invitation as she feel's that she'll be on her own pretty much


I've no idea what the invites for my other cousins who're not married say, so i'm not sure what to think on it at the minute, though if they got plus 1's i'd be a bit píss off
but do understand about places & that and the only reason of the invite is that i'm family - you can pretty much say that's the only reason for the invite

evilmonkee

batistuta9 wrote: »

the invitation was to me & my mother

I think the fact that it was for both of you would make it rude to ask for a +1 as you already have company.

If one of you was not able to attend, I think it would be ok to ask to bring someone else in their place (as it wouldn't affect the budget). Otherwise I think it would be rude.

batistuta9

evilmonkee wrote: »

I think the fact that it was for both of you would make it rude to ask for a +1 as you already have company.

If one of you was not able to attend, I think it would be ok to ask to bring someone else in their place (as it wouldn't affect the budget). Otherwise I think it would be rude.

yeah that was my initial thought on it

it just that it's a crappy situation

i wanted to see what others thought or if anyone had experienced something like that - not being asked on your own but the family situation in it

and non attendance by one of us won't go down the best either