Depression - do I tell Wife

LegacyUser

Hi folks,
I won't be getting into detail just yet, but my GP says I have depression and has given me contact details of someone to talk too.

Now, my wife is due home in 10 minutes. She is 34 weeks pregnant and I am wondering is now aa very bad time to break the news to her. She has her suspions that I am, but don't want to put any more stress on her at the moment

P. Breathnach

Would you tell her if you had flu or had broken your ankle? Of course you would. Depression is just another ailment. Tell her.

If anything is likely to bother her, it is not that depression has been diagnosed; rather it is that you are likely to behave in the manner of a depressed person. It might be a relief to her to know that it is being addressed.

a posse ad esse

Tell her. You've admitted that she has an idea. But when you do tell her be honest to her and yourself. Are you going to follow your doctor's orders? Take the medication that is prescribed and look over the list of recommended counsellors and schedule that appointment straight away? If you are going to be proactive towards your recovery then I don't see her being stressed about it. I could see her getting frustrated if you don't do anything about it and think that it will go away. Depression does not go away it takes work and effort and it's prone to relapse.

Big Bag of Chips

If she was depressed would you want her to tell you.... Regardless of what else was going on in your life? Or would you rather she kept it to herself, so as not to worry you?


Edit: Either way, pregnant women are more resilient than you think!

Benny_Cake

Tell her. She's your wife, she will want to know. If she has been worrying about you she may be a little reassured that you told her, depression is horrible but it is a treatable condition. Best of luck, with the treatment and the new baby.

elusiveguy

I'd think its better for her to know you're doing something to address it than to think it's a problem that you're ignoring

Cupcake_Crisis

Tell her immediately. And tell her you have sought professional help. Depression is nothing to be ashamed of and should not be thought of as a burden. If she doesn't know what is wrong with you she can't fully be there to help you through.

a fat guy

Tell her.

Sufferers often don't reach out for help for many fake reasons, when they really just don't want to deal with the ailment, a problem which stems from depression itself.

It'll do you a world of good OP!

Pippy1976

Tell her. End of.