Need a girls opinion - long distance question

WakaWaka88

About 5 months ago, I went for a weekend away to a city in the UK with one of my buddies on a bit of a booze up. I had gone through a bad break up about a year ago, and i was probably just coming around. Anyways, I met and kissed a girl over there who is actually from near enough to where I'm from here at home. Anyways, we stayed in contact, maybe one text a week or so until she was next home, when I met and kissed her again. We met for lunch etc and the next day and got on like a house on fire.

So the texting became more frequent, and in the spur of the moment I booked a flight over to see her for a weekend (this time on my own). Was nervous going over, and she told me after that she was a bit nervous about me going over too (we had only met 3 times after all!). But we had an absolutely great weekend together, really couply and I went out with her and her friends. After that weekend, the texting became daily. I met her again at Xmas when she was home, and spend New Years with her. Surprisingly enough, there was no drunken chat about what we were going to do, except to say that i'd go over again in Jan.

So we went through January again texting every day, and with maybe one call per week for a chat. I went over again the end of Jan, and we had an even better weekend. She has said to me that it would be so much easier and cheaper for me to find someone at home, and that she'd love if i was with her in the UK the whole time, but again we didnt really have a full chat about things. Now she's after moving to another part of the UK, which I encouraged her to do as she was unhappy in her job etc. The daily texting is continuing, but I don't know what the story is with us!! She jokingly referred to me as her boyfriend on my last trip over, and her mother and family knew i was going over. She's 24 and i'm 27. At the start, I thought this was something casual, but i genuinely really like her now and am willing to travel over to her a couple times a month if she was willing to give us a go. Her long term aim is to return home. She's still young, and I don't want to deny her the chance to live her life, but I suppose I can't help how I feel about her. We spoke about me going over for Easter, and I've said to myself if that does happen then I'm not coming home again without knowing what the story is. I'm not sure does she just not think there's a point with the long distance, but why text me every day then.

Anyway, rant over! Any advice would be welcome

judgefudge

Basically from what you've said it sounds like she's into you like that too... However the only way to find out is to ask! So I think that's what you should do and best of luck!

Also you said she's young and you don't want to stop her from living her life. If what you mean by that is not wanting to hold her back then I wouldn't worry. If she likes you enough to have kept seeing you despite the distance and texting you each day then you obviously make her happy and that means she's living her life!

CaraMay

Sunday like the start of a lovely romance... Talk to her and don't worry about holding her bac maybe she would value a good relationship more than traveling the world.

P. Breathnach

Is it okay to offer a man's opinion?

WakaWaka88 wrote: »

... She's 24 and i'm 27. ... She's still young, and I don't want to deny her the chance to live her life ...

Come on! It's not like you are an old man trying to get it together with a youngster. You are both in your mid-20s.

Consider this possibility: that the way she wants to live her life includes you. You need to have "the talk". Good luck with it.

WakaWaka88

Just off the phone with her, had our usual chat, lots of laughter etc. Would rather have "the chat" in person obviously. Am seriously mad about her, but as usual i'm here trying to figure out what the girl is thinking ha! I think she doesn't believe that it's feasible due to the cost, but I have a decent job and no huge outgoings, so obviously I'm just gonna stress to her that money isn't a problem - it's not often you meet someone that you click this much with so I'm willing to spend money to see her. At the same time, I don't want to freak her out as she is only 24 and I'm wary that I'm being a bit too intense for her. Anyway, time will tell, thanks for the comments guys!

sffc

I have to be honest , I'm generally very sceptical about LDR's OP but in this case I'm not going to be Mr. Negative .
The reason mainly is that I think you sound like a reasonable guy and you are being realistic about the whole thing . From what you write she seems the same although a little less sure and of course we are getting your interpretion of her feelings etc . Have "the chat" and see how you go .

illicit007

Look dude if you're being too intense for her then she doesn't want what you want.

The problem with relationships is people either over think things or are too scared to admit how they truly feel and what the truly want.

Once I started to admit to myself and other potential/current partners, that's when I started getting what I truly wanted.

I'd recommend everyone out there try it! If you think you can that is! I dare you

judgefudge

I'm 24, and I have a 24 year old friend who is seeing a guy from Scotland that she met on holiday. I've never seen her happier, they go back and forth and seem to make it work.

Basically, 24 isn't 18. There's plenty of girls my age who would love to meet a nice guy who cares about them that much to try and make it work!