I am a two faced jerk.....

HonorRoller

Sorry for this thread though I am not looking for an advice. I simply want this off my chest but if anyone want something to say, criticism or otherwise it would be much appreciated.

Well there was this problem I made. You see I had a talk with my friend's ex and he was complaining about how she was a bitch and a slut and I seconded that. You see he was right and I was frustrated with her as well. You see she ignored me beforehand and I was angry. Though I suspect that she was using me since we are really the ones who click. However the ex claims she cheated on him. It wasn't true although the girl did jump from one guy to another quickly after breaking up. I told the ex I just hang out with my friend because we are really the ones who click. Later on I told my other friend about the cheating. Two days later I texted my friend not to tell his girlfriend (who was the said girl's bestfriend) about it yet but the problem is his girlfriend saw the text. Now that girlfriend told the girl in question about it and she confronted the ex. The ex said to her that I said 'stuff that will ruin friendship' between her and me.

Now I feel ill because he might say to her the stuff I said. I am embracing the fall and it might ruin the friendship. Now I have the feeling that she was genuine with me all along so I was wrong that she might be using me.

Oh boy me and my ****ing brain and mouth......furthermore I lied a lot and justified my actions a lot......

SunnyDub1

Your post is all very confusing "this Friend, that Friend, ex's, freind's ex's"

From what I can make from your post, I think you should just own up to your freind, tell her you had a bitch about her and you regret it and apologize to her. Just up honest and own up about everything. Better comming from you than some one else.

HonorRoller

I should just own up that is the best thing to do. I also had to make it up to my other friends for dragging them into it. I need to think carefully how to go on about it.....

Thank you.

IrishEyes19

You do need to own up or accept the friendship will be gone. Im not here to lecture, I get it you feel bad. But the language you used against her was terrible. I know he said it, but you should not have gone with it. Bitch and Slut because she had a few partners?? and she hasnt cheated. Her sexual life/dating life is her own business as long as she wasnt cheating or hurting someone. What were you thinking speaking about a girl like this and furthermore a friend because you felt put out. If you have issues with your friend regarding your relationship with her, you tell her, not some ex who has an axe to grind anyway.

Now thats my lecture over, it is a predicament and it probably will get back to her. Rumours spread faster than wildfire unfortunately. You want to fix this, tell her face to face. No-more speaking to ex's, other friends ect. Honestly, its a case of chinese whispers when people tell each other stories, the stories get wound up and people get the wrong end of the stick. Fess up, see what happens and if you're lucky you might not lose that friend.

HonorRoller

Yes I am well aware of the situation and I am so sorry about it. It was complicated and long different story with her so I talked to the ex. Well I will man up and face the consequences of my actions.

IrishEyes19

HonorRoller wrote: »

Yes I am well aware of the situation and I am so sorry about it. It was complicated and long different story with her so I talked to the ex. Well I will man up and face the consequences of my actions.

Good for you and it will be fine. Not easy by any means, but it'll stop you looking over your shoulder worrying, because you must be all over the place at this stage!!! Best of luck!!