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Should I call? how do I call

  • 27-02-2013 9:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I was seeing a guy for a few months, really like him. I had some personal things going on which I hadn't shared with him which basically made me act a bit out of character. I was sort of paranoid & snappy with him and we ended up having an argument. In fairness I feel that he was partly responsible but I did over-react.

    Last convo we had was by text ended with me asking whether he wanted to end things, he didn't answer and asked what I wanted. I said I wasn't sure(at the time I wasn't) but that I didn't think I wanted it to end yet. He never replied :-(

    So I'm kinda guessing that the fact I haven't heard from him gives me the answer but I figure what have I got to lose by calling. As things stand we're not together and worse case scenario is we still won't be after it. I know I'll be upset if he doesn't want anything to do with me & I guess I'll have to deal with that.

    I just don't know how to start the conversation. Do I just call & chit chat or should I talk about what happened & apologise? I don't really want to get into the personal issues I am dealing with. It's not something I feel ready to share but then maybe I owe him an explanation.

    I'm so confused, maybe a text would be better? Any advice appreciated


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  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    shouldI wrote: »
    Last convo we had was by text ended with me asking whether he wanted to end things, he didn't answer and asked what I wanted. I said I wasn't sure(at the time I wasn't) but that I didn't think I wanted it to end yet. He never replied :-(

    Not to be pedantic, but is that the terminology you used in a text? If so I'm not surprised you didn't hear from him again. If someone told me they didn't think they wanted to finish with me yet, I'd be flouncing my petticoats and exiting stage left as soon as legs would carry me and thinking they can feck off.

    How long ago did all this happen? It sounds like there is a lot of misunderstanding, unresolved issues and apologies to be made. I would phone him and say that you've been thinking about him a lot and would really like the opportunity to meet up. Be friendly and nice on the phone and arrange a few drinks. If you were really off then you do owe him some kind of explanation. If he is not willing to meet you then you have to let it go.


  • #3
    sffc
    Closed Accounts Posts: 433 ✭✭sffc


    Does no-one say SORRY anymore ?? It would be a great start .


  • #4
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    If you have all these personal issues to deal with do you think it's a good idea to be in a relationship with anyone?

    If I were you I would call him, just tell him that you have stuff going on and you are sorry for overreacting, you're not usually like that. I'd also suggest that you don't ask him to get back together but just tell him you need to straighten your own head out first and maybe in the future, if he is up for it you could try again. Maintain your dignity!


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