Is this weird?

QueenBee1

I dont know if this is the correct place or not so feel free to remove it if not.

Do you think its a little weird for a 22 year old girl to go to London with her mammy on a break? I don't have many friends and the ones I have wont go. My boyfriend said he will go but he doesn't have a lot of money so I will have to pay for a lot of his share and also he is unreliable. I asked my mother to go as I know she will have money and will enjoy the break but I just feel weird as I see people on FB the whole time going with their friends or boyfriends ? What do you think should I just go with my boyfriend?

MitchKoobski

Mother and daughter trip to London sounds completely normal to me.

I wouldn't rule out going by yourself either if you really want to go, don't knock it until you've tried it!

MissFlitworth

I'm a 30 year old who right the way through her 20s regularly went away on breaks with her Godmother (and another one planned for May). Lots of my friends still go away on holidays with their parents, go on shopping breaks with their mothers etc. *Nothing* weird about it

I was a little self conscious about it at first, when I was in my early 20s in a 'people will think I have no friends' sort of a way but people, in general, aren't muppets and don't think like that. People will be jealous of your holiday is more like it

Go to London with your Mam! It's a really good city for a mammy break.

ElleEm

Myself and my ma go away together a fair bit. At least once a year we go on a spa break, and have been to London and even spent a week in the Canaries together.
She is as much a friend as she is my mother, and we have a laugh.
It never occured to me to be concerned what others think.
Go on holiday and have a great time! Don't be worrying about Facebook.

Zombrex

QueenBee1 wrote: »

I dont know if this is the correct place or not so feel free to remove it if not.

Do you think its a little weird for a 22 year old girl to go to London with her mammy on a break? I don't have many friends and the ones I have wont go. My boyfriend said he will go but he doesn't have a lot of money so I will have to pay for a lot of his share and also he is unreliable. I asked my mother to go as I know she will have money and will enjoy the break but I just feel weird as I see people on FB the whole time going with their friends or boyfriends ? What do you think should I just go with my boyfriend?

It's not weird at all.

You probably feel a bit self conscious because to you you are worried that it will appear that you went with your mum because you had no one else to go with. But don't worry, no one else is going to jump to that conclusion.

You are a young adult now, don't tell the teenagers but adults do stuff with their parents all the time! In a few years when you have a house to clean and 5 babies you will be begging your mum to take you on a weekend away

Meauldsegosha

It's not weird at all. Like other posters I've been away on breaks amd holidays with my mam. Go and enjoy the break with your mam and don't worrying about what other people think.

fits

Its not weird at all and the trip may give you memories you will treasure in the future. Friends and boyfriends may come and go but you only have one mum.

IvyTheTerrible

No, not weird at all! I often go on little breaks with my mum or my sister. They are my friends, so why wouldn't i!

Hope you enjoy your trip.

SunnyDub1

weekend away in London with mam for shopping, drinks, food, change of scenery sounds like a perfect weekend away to me tbh :P

I'm in my early 20's

It's not weird at all, but I did find the use of the word "mammy" a little strange. Maybe you feel self conscious about it because someone has said something about it before?

twiggy86

It's not weird atall, I regularly go away with my mam and my sisters for wee holidays or spa weekends! None of my friends think it's odd and infact most of them say how jealous they are that I get on so well with her that I can go away for a weekend with her & not be tearing my hair out by the end of it as most of them would with their own mothers!!!!

Da Shins Kelly

Not weird at all. My mother and I have a tradition of going to the cinema together every weekend. We don't do it now, because I'm living in a different country, but as soon as I move back, we'll start it again. We go out for tea dates too, and she's planning on visiting me for a week during the summer for a holiday. None of my friends think it's weird. Yours shouldn't either. There's nothing strange about spending time with your mother. It might give you a chance to properly get to know her. I mean, we all know our parents, but I've heard stories from my mother's past that I would never have even suspected if it hadn't been for the fact that we hang out and just chat. Parents have stories to tell, and some of them can be very surprising!

Merkin

I don't see how you can possibly think it's weird. It would be weird if you asked her on your honeymooon, that would be weird. But a girlie break with your Mum is lovely and a great way to spend time with her.

I'm in my mid 30s and am planning another break with Mum soon as we do a big one every couple of years. It's a lovely way to spend quality time together, have a few cocktails and bond. I've also gone off on weekends with both my folks because I love them and they are great company. I think it's hard for parents when their kids leave home and flee the nest and including your Mum in your life and choosing to spend time with her is great. As Fits said, you only have one Mum - I've friends who have lost their Mums young and would give their right arm to spend a weekend with them.

QueenBee1

Thank you to everyone for your replies. I feel self conscious because i live at home and spend all my time with my parents there as I work late and working circumstances means I don't see my friends as much as I should. I feel self conscious as I know someone else like that who goes away to America every summer with his mam to see their relations and my best friends is always saying he needs to grow a pair and he should be out doing that stuf with mates not mammy at his age.

judgefudge

I'm only 24 and I wish I had the money to go away with my mam! Sounds lovely

beks101

Cherish your mum while you have her.
The trips away & adventures will be wonderful memories you'll always have together.

MissFlitworth

QueenBee1 wrote: »

I feel self conscious as I know someone else like that who goes away to America every summer with his mam to see their relations and my best friends is always saying he needs to grow a pair and he should be out doing that stuff with mates not mammy at his age.

Yeah, your friend is ridiculously pass remarkable! Probably just jealous of someone who gets to go to the States every Summer. (Going to visit relatives isn't something you can really do with your mates anyways.)

orchidsrpretty

Agree with all the other posters. Maybe during your teens spending time with your parents is a bit of a chore, but when you start growing up and actually get to know your parents as people, it can be very enjoyable spending time with them. I love going away on hols with my mum and having lunches etc with her.

AnonoBoy

I know guys who go away on trips with their mothers some times (and they're not weird creepy Norman Bates guys either!).

It's great to see to be honest. Have fun, great that you enjoy her company.

3DataModem

I'm going away with my mother and my son this weekend.

It will be lame, but not weird.

Daisy M

I know loads of people who do this and to be honest I am a little jealous of people who have a great relationship with their mothers, its only as my kids are getting bigger that I realise what I am missing out on but my mother is not like others.

I would suggest you live your life in a way that makes you happy, stop doubting yourself and revel in the fact that you are living your life and not judging others!

tan11ie

Not weird at all, maybe it's just your age but I can't see how it's weird at all. I'm lucky enough to have a Mother that I would class as one of my bests friends, we often go away together and have nights out...most people seem to mistake her as an older sister:D

Count yourself lucky that you have a Mother that you get along with,I'm sure there are many who wish they could say the same.

Go and have fun.

QueenBee1

Thank you to everyone that has taken the time to reply it had put my mind at ease and from seeing what others wrote has put my mind at ease! My peers are really judgemental and critical of each other sometimes I even wonder do I have real friends! Thanks again

amtc

I go away with my mother a few times a year - even included my grandmother and my aunt! For my 30th, we went on a mad cruise around Singapore and Malaysia. Makes us all feel like adults - mind you I will not share a room, as she snores! I'm an only child, so gives me a family vibe!

StillWaters

orchidsrpretty wrote: »

Agree with all the other posters. Maybe during your teens spending time with your parents is a bit of a chore, but when you start growing up and actually get to know your parents as people, it can be very enjoyable spending time with them. I love going away on hols with my mum and having lunches etc with her.

This. I'm at the stage where I am the most embarrassing mam ever, and almost have to walk a few paces behind my dd in case God Forbid anyone cops she has a mother. Everyone tells me this is an entirely natural phase as she breaks free and forges her own identity and world and peers become all important. They also tell me it swings back and a deep friendship can be formed in the 20s. I know that was the case with my own mother.
It's time to pay less attention to those critical passremarkable friends who seem to be stuck at age 14.

boomtown123

Completely normal! Go with your mam. You'll have great memories and thank yourself for them in years to come.

kylith

Nothing weird about it at all. My mother and I go away once or twice a year.

If you don't go you will one day look back and think; I wish I'd spent more time with my mother while I had the chance.

QueenBee1

kylith wrote: »

Nothing weird about it at all. My mother and I go away once or twice a year.

If you don't go you will one day look back and think; I wish I'd spent more time with my mother while I had the chance.

Thanks kylith and everyone else! As I said I am just a bit conscious it looks a bit lame and pathetic to bring my mam to London instead of my bf or friends !

looksee

QueenBee1 wrote: »

Thanks kylith and everyone else! As I said I am just a bit conscious it looks a bit lame and pathetic to bring my mam to London instead of my bf or friends !

'Looks' to who? Why would you care what something as personal and innocuous as going on holiday 'looks' like? Who is looking at you to make any judgement? I think you should be more concerned about why you care what other people think, rather than what it 'looks' like.

Legs.Eleven

QueenBee1 wrote: »

Thanks kylith and everyone else! As I said I am just a bit conscious it looks a bit lame and pathetic to bring my mam to London instead of my bf or friends !

My mother died when I was 11 and I'm 32 now. Fook what your friends say (in fairness, they're being very immature for people in their 20s) and enjoy this time you have with her. It might not have hit you yet but the reality is she won't be round forever. Enjoy every second you can spend with her and enjoy yourself.

QueenBee1

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

My mother died when I was 11 and I'm 32 now. Fook what your friends say (in fairness, they're being very immature for people in their 20s) and enjoy this time you have with her. It might not have hit you yet but the reality is she won't be round forever. Enjoy every second you can spend with her and enjoy yourself.

Your dead right! I wish my friends were more open minded! It's something I'm struggling with at the minute all my "friends" have either drifted apart or bitch about each other! I really feel like I need to move away and meet new people set up a new life! I am looking into college in sept so hopefully it will help! Thanks for your reply

baby and crumble

Op, the one and only thing I truly regret in my life is not going away on a holiday with just my Mum. She was my best friend, and we kept saying "we'll go away next year". Then there was no next year.

Go.

Legs.Eleven

QueenBee1 wrote: »

Your dead right! I wish my friends were more open minded! It's something I'm struggling with at the minute all my "friends" have either drifted apart or bitch about each other! I really feel like I need to move away and meet new people set up a new life! I am looking into college in sept so hopefully it will help! Thanks for your reply

People eventually grow up but some people are a bit slower at it then others. In fact, I'd say going away with your mam is a sign of maturity. It shows others you don't see your parents as an embarrassment anymore (like teenagers do).

If you're friends are dragging you down, it's time to find new ones. College is a great place to start afresh! I really hope you go away with your mam - you'll look back and feel so grateful you did.

hollypink

kylith wrote: »

If you don't go you will one day look back and think; I wish I'd spent more time with my mother while I had the chance.

My sister and I go on a regular holiday with my mum once a year for the past few years. It's enjoyable for lots of reasons but the above quote is the biggest motivation. My mum is well now, but she had breast cancer a number of years ago and I think that made us particularly realise that our time with her is precious, and we should make the most of it.

Big Bag of Chips

true-or-false wrote: »

It's not weird at all, but I did find the use of the word "mammy" a little strange. Maybe you feel self conscious about it because someone has said something about it before?

I'm 35 and my mammy is still called 'mammy'! It's how we call our mams around these parts. Daddy is 'daddy' too by the way!

As per everyone else OP, nothing strange about it at all. It's a weekend away.

Even if it was an annual family holiday, there would still be nothing weird. Loads of families do it.. and as the families get bigger, so too do the chalets!

Degringola

OP, years ago my Dad was going to London for a few days on his own and I said I'd go with him. When one of my brothers heard about it he poured scorn on the idea - why, I don't know and I wouldn't revisit it now with him years later as no doubt he has completely forgotten about it.

Anyway, being easily led back then, I backed out of the trip and my Dad went on his own.

I've always regretted it. He's dead a long time now.

Go, OP.

Taltos

Closing as OP has a new thread open in RI.

Taltos