I'd like advice, if possible :)

Misteree

I'm seventeen years old, pretty much your average gay teen, loves black ladies and the usual.
I am out to my lovely mam, and the majority of my friends, but is not exactly "facebook official" yet.
I am finding it frustrating however, that I cannot find any other people, my age that are gay, in my area. I'm aware many are probably in the closet, and well, that's ok, I would like to be able to experience things like 'meeting' and the like, as my other friends are doing the same. Grindr has been recommended to me, but I feel intimidated going onto it, as I'm worried all people want on there is sex, and I'm not looking for NSA stuff at this age.

Should I stick it out, and wait until I go to college or something, or should I go try find companionship via Grindr, as i'd love to have a boyfriend of some sorts now?
Thought you guys would be good with advice

normal lad

Misteree wrote: »

I'm seventeen years old, pretty much your average gay teen, loves black ladies and the usual.
I am out to my lovely mam, and the majority of my friends, but is not exactly "facebook official" yet.
I am finding it frustrating however, that I cannot find any other people, my age that are gay, in my area. I'm aware many are probably in the closet, and well, that's ok, I would like to be able to experience things like 'meeting' and the like, as my other friends are doing the same. Grindr has been recommended to me, but I feel intimidated going onto it, as I'm worried all people want on there is sex, and I'm not looking for NSA stuff at this age.

Should I stick it out, and wait until I go to college or something, or should I go try find companionship via Grindr, as i'd love to have a boyfriend of some sorts now?
Thought you guys would be good with advice

Don't go rushing to find someone, you're still so young so don't worry at all about falling behind. You seem to be in a great position now at just 17 and have accepted yourself and came out to some folk.

You're going about things the right way, sites like gridr are more or less just for hook ups so no point looking there for anything meaningful.

Focus on school/college/mates for now, you have plenty of time later on to worry about the aul love life


And the whole no gay friends issue, can be a bit sh*t to feel you have no one to relate to but give it time, with the right attitude everything will work out.

wonderfulname

Have you had a look at http://www.belongto.org?

face1990

Belongto is probably the best option for making gay friends.
But don't worry about it. After school it's much easier to meet other gay people, especially if you go on to college.

As for not being able to experience 'meeting' and the likes, I know what you mean, it used to bother me too.
But the majority of gay people seem to get into boyfriends & relationships etc at later ages than straight people, and to be honest I think that can be a good thing. When that time comes you're that bit more mature about it all & get to skip a lot of the teenage dating shíte!

Avasa

Pop along to Outhouse on Capel st. They can give you some advice.

CdeC

hey,
nothing can replace getting up and getting invloved with things that will have gay teens, definitely go along to belongto aslo look into joining or doing something that will let you meet other like minded people.
Not to stereotype but maybe a Drama group, musical society, art project or the like might allow you to make new friends or meet people through people.

If you are going to ust the internet and Grindr, state on your profile what you are looking for, no ambiguity.

"NO NSA, friends with the hopes for more etc". That way you'll avoid all the guys looking for hookups. Also put up a normal pic of your face.
I find the Internet not as good for this sort of thing but sure even if you made one friend off it then it would be worth it.

jaffacakesyum

Misteree wrote: »

I'm seventeen years old, pretty much your average gay teen, loves black ladies and the usual.
I am out to my lovely mam, and the majority of my friends, but is not exactly "facebook official" yet.
I am finding it frustrating however, that I cannot find any other people, my age that are gay, in my area. I'm aware many are probably in the closet, and well, that's ok, I would like to be able to experience things like 'meeting' and the like, as my other friends are doing the same. Grindr has been recommended to me, but I feel intimidated going onto it, as I'm worried all people want on there is sex, and I'm not looking for NSA stuff at this age.

Should I stick it out, and wait until I go to college or something, or should I go try find companionship via Grindr, as i'd love to have a boyfriend of some sorts now?
Thought you guys would be good with advice

Wut?

baby and crumble

I second jaffas confusion, OP are you male or female?

If you're female, then Grindr is NOT for you.

If you're male, then your post about 'liking black ladies' is a bit weird.

Actually, it's a bit weird in general, tbh. (Not that liking black women is weird I hasten to add! I just mean it's oddly specific).

wonderfulname

I thought it was a joke I didn't get...

jaffacakesyum

I assume the OP is male, and maybe there is some stereotype about gay men loving black women that I don't know about :pac:

normal lad

baby and crumble wrote: »

I second jaffas confusion, OP are you male or female?

If you're female, then Grindr is NOT for you.

If you're male, then your post about 'liking black ladies' is a bit weird.

Actually, it's a bit weird in general, tbh. (Not that liking black women is weird I hasten to add! I just mean it's oddly specific).

I assumed they were some sort of band or something?

jaffacakesyum

Weirdest trolling ever?

If so, kudos my man

Annasopra

I saw that and assumed he meant like pop stars or something

Misteree

Nah, it was more about the stereotype. :P
Like Beyonce and all that, Love black women, they're so regal

thanks for all the great advice btw

Locker10a

Misteree wrote: »

Nah, it was more about the stereotype. :P
Like Beyonce and all that, Love black women, they're so regal <3

thanks for all the great advice btw

Haha I was wondering about the black ladies thing aswell! I just assumed it was the same love I had for black ladies in school(and still do) but buy black ladies I don't mean Beyonce I mean Brenda from scary movie fickin love her n her swag! + needless to mention sweet ! The " ain't nobody got time fo dat" lady

floggg

Misteree wrote: »

Nah, it was more about the stereotype. :P
Like Beyonce and all that, Love black women, they're so regal <3

thanks for all the great advice btw

So black women are the new gay icons?

I guess a strong powerful black wonan like Beyonce is an improvement on the doomed helpless white woman like Liza Minnelli that used to be en vogue.

Maybe someday gay men will get round to idolising men.*





* I've already started with Beyonces husband. He's the man I want to be when I grow up!

floggg

As for the helpful advice part, for the love of god stay away from Grindr and the like. At your age your still trying to figure things out, but there is plenty of guys in there who might take advantage of that or try to push you beyond your comfort zone.

And stay safe and protected if you do get involved with anybody. Also use a condom and don't move faster than you are comfortable with.

Sorry for sounding like a parent but there are plenty of grown men who might try to take advantage. You'll find that most of us gays though are genuine enough, but hook ups can bring out the worst in people.

Annasopra

Theres also a youth group in Tallaght

http://www.bettertogether.ie/2011/content/uga-tallaght-youth-group