New girlfriend and now girls wants me

AugustusMinimus

I really, really don't understand the female mind.

I was single for over a year and certain women I knew didn't have very much romantic interest in me.

However, I've started going out with a girl recently and things have obviously changed. One girl I know has become very flirty with me, laughing at just about any joke or witty comment I say, no matter how unfunny they are.

Do women do this just to piss men off ? Why do I suddenly become attractive to these women at the very moment I'm useless to them ?

DipStick McSwindler

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MurdyWurdy

IrishFeeney92 wrote: »

Women want what they cant have

Simples.

or maybe the woman that the OP referred to wants what she can't have as opposed to all women - we don't all think alike.

DeltaWhite

You're not alone! As us women dont understand a man's mind either

Maybe it's just a case of wanting what you now cant have. Men are guilty of that too so I wouldnt be quick to ask "Do women do this just to piss men off?"

All people are different so maybe that girl does just want something that she cant have Wouldnt worry about it!

Lapin

Why can't women be like the rest of the human race ?

DipStick McSwindler

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Seachmall

Maybe you've stopped giving off the lonely/desperate vibe?

The_Gatsby

Maybe she was hopelessly in love with you and now that you have a girlfriend she's only just realised that she let you slip through her fingers. GOSH DON'T BE SO INSENSITIVE

frag420

She obviously wants a threesome. I reckon you should bring her back and surprise your new girlfriend!! Make sure your new girlfriend doesn't own a gun!!

Enjoy!!

AugustusMinimus

frag420 wrote: »

She obviously wants a threesome. I reckon you should bring her back and surprise your new girlfriend!! Make sure your new girlfriend doesn't own a gun!!

Enjoy!!

Finally a post that makes sense

General Relativity

IrishFeeney92 wrote: »

Women want what they cant have

Simples.

I heard that women were all the same.

griffdaddy

It's because once you have a girlfriend you generally have to start combing your hair, stop sharting and eating your snots and be nice to people. Other girls can pick up on things like that.

HTML5!

As a red blooded male, OP, you can cheat and just use your inherent manliness as an excuse. It's science, baby!

FatherLen

AugustusMinimus wrote: »

oh no women are flirting with me

:mad:

Rayne Wooney

Who's hotter OP, your girlfriend or this other girl?

SunnyDub1

AugustusMinimus wrote: »

However, I've started going out with a girl recently and things have obviously changed. One girl I know has become very flirty with me, laughing at just about any joke or witty comment I say, no matter how unfunny they are.

The girl is probably just extra friendly with you now cause she's not worried about you hitting on her now you have a girlfriend!:cool:

Celly Smunt

Maybe she's just starting to realise now that her fanny isn't a national treasure.

krudler

Happens me all the time, soon as I'm seeing someone people take notice. I think its a confidence thing as well, if you go out and you're single, you spend more time on the lookout or trying to catch people's eye, when you're in a relationship you have an air of "I don't care" about you and that makes you all mysterious and aloof n sh1t, and the wimmen love that.

frozenfrozen

Definitely the I don't care / I'm not desperate vibe

SB2013

Your relationship has made you more confident and secure and this is an attractive quality to women. There is also the matter of pheremones which are said to be released in greater quantities by a more sexually active person. It's not that women want what they can't have. Men become more attractive physically and psychlogically when in a relationship.

hullaballoo

She probably mistakenly thinks you're less likely to sleaze on her now.

Cereal Number

Every woman in this country thinks that their body parts are national treasures

Bítches are crazy

Cans lads?

smash

Is this a parody thread to the 'what women want' thread?

Cereal Number

Women only want a chocolate willy that shoots out cash and jewelry

AnonoBoy

MurdyWurdy wrote: »

or maybe the woman that the OP referred to wants what she can't have as opposed to all women - we don't all think alike.

Wait... What. The. F*ck? :eek:

When the hell did happen? I didn't get the memo. :mad:

DustyMan

IrishFeeney92 wrote: »

Women want what they cant have

Simples.

We ALL want what we think we can't have!

donalg1

Its simple really, when you were single she saw as being there, now that you are with someone she looks at you differently as the type of person wanted by others. Its not that she wants what she cant have, its that she wants what another girl has, you are obviously good enough for this other girl so now she thinks you are good enough for her to date.

You probably appear more confident to her also and are no longer the single lad she could be with whenever she liked, instead you are now the one that she could have been with but didnt bother trying.

Or maybe she just wants what she cant have.

Imagine you are in a relationship and are in no way looking for a girlfriend or shift when you are out in the pub with the lads, now you are standing beside two of your friends who are single and are out on the pull and are eyeing up every girl that passes giving them the sleazy eye, while you stand there completely blanking these girls when they walk by, who appears more attractive to them?

AnonoBoy

DustyMan wrote: »

We ALL want what we think we can't have!

All women that I can't have want what I don't want or have.

3qsmavrod5twfe

Maybe it's because you no longer reek of desperation. That and you have proven that at least one other person in the world can be round you for extended periods of time.

LiamMc

MurdyWurdy wrote: »

or maybe the woman that the OP referred to wants what she can't have as opposed to all women - we don't all think alike.

That's not true.

OP, have you trans-morphed into a chocolate phallus which ejaculates money?

yizorselves

Its because you're imagining it

blade1

Feast or Famine,
That's just the way it is!

Baneblade

so what your trying to say is you have a girlfriend??

janeo80

I'd say she's comfortable around you because she thinks you won't be hitting on her now you've a gf.... And I'd also go with the confidence thing! You're probably happier in yourself now and not on the lookout, so have inadvertently become more appealing! You should be happy!

Furious_George

Cereal Number wrote: »

Every woman in this country thinks that their body parts are national treasures

Bítches are crazy

Cans lads?

True that, bitches be crazy and shít :cool:.

Eve_Dublin

More confidence and not reeking of desperation and that's it really.

Fizman

An old saying rings through here:

"In order to be successful, one must first portray an image of success".

Similar to industry, it's easier to get a new job if you have a current job.

RDM_83 again

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

More confidence and not reeking of desperation and that's it really.

^^^^^
Not true really

its all about the womans perception

You see i like that this thread as this is a common assumption thats made and somebody did a nice neat experiment to show that its not about the man changing its about the womans view of the man changing *.

You see they got a load of men and woman (both single and attached) and showed them pictures of a member of the opposite sex, told half of them they were single and half of them they were attached , and asked them if they would be interested in them romantically.

Men and woman attached woman scored the same for interest in the photo when told the person in the photo was single or attached.

For single woman however

" When the man was described as unattached, 59 percent of the single women were interested in pursuing him. When that same man was described as being in a committed relationship, 90 percent were interested. The researchers write:"

Thats the same photo of the same guy! no difference in confidence or grooming or the fact that he's got new clothes

links below for those that disagree

New York times summary
http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/08/13/do-single-women-seek-attached-men/

Full peer reviewed research paper

http://www.synergy-pr.com/files/JESP72009(1).pdf




* Obviously every person is different but there is a strong statistical difference

Eve_Dublin

RDM_83 again wrote: »

^^^^^
Not true really

its all about the womans perception

You see i like that this thread as this is a common assumption thats made and somebody did a nice neat experiment to show that its not about the man changing its about the womans view of the man changing *.

You see they got a load of men and woman (both single and attached) and showed them pictures of a member of the opposite sex, told half of them they were single and half of them they were attached , and asked them if they would be interested in them romantically.

Men and woman attached woman scored the same for interest in the photo when told the person in the photo was single or attached.

For single woman however

" When the man was described as unattached, 59 percent of the single women were interested in pursuing him. When that same man was described as being in a committed relationship, 90 percent were interested. The researchers write:"

Thats the same photo of the same guy! no difference in confidence or grooming or the fact that he's got new clothes

links below for those that disagree

New York times summary
http://tierneylab.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/08/13/do-single-women-seek-attached-men/

Full peer reviewed research paper

http://www.synergy-pr.com/files/JESP72009(1).pdf




* Obviously every person is different but there is a strong statistical difference

Fair enough. I'm not bothered reading those research papers but there has to be a reason for it. Does the research explain why?

Edit: Actually I'm going NY Times article. No worries...

Eve_Dublin

According to a recent poll, most women who engage in mate poaching do not think the attached status of the target played a role in their poaching decision, but our study shows this belief to be false. Single women in this study were significantly more interested in the target when he was attached. This may be because an attached man has demonstrated his ability to commit and in some ways his qualities have already been ‘‘pre-screened” by another woman.

They still haven't proven why, just that it's the case. This is supposedly the most plausible theory. Makes sense to me.

SEPT 23 1989

Wait till you are pushing a pram around a park on your own OP

the ladies can smell the fetility i used to have to carry a big stick to ward them off

RDM_83 again

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

They still haven't proven why, just that it's the case. This is supposedly the most plausible theory. Makes sense to me.

Yeah put that in the reply that i wrote too slowly for the replies

But the only answer obviously is all woman are biological robots that drag men down with their gold digging ways

Men come across as sleazier than woman in the study too though :cool:

twowheelsonly

I know the feeling OP.

Every time I get a new girlfriend the wife starts showing an interest. Gets her hair done and wants to go out and all that. :rolleyes:

Dyr

AugustusMinimus wrote: »

I really, really don't understand the female mind.

I was single for over a year and certain women I knew didn't have very much romantic interest in me.

However, I've started going out with a girl recently and things have obviously changed. One girl I know has become very flirty with me, laughing at just about any joke or witty comment I say, no matter how unfunny they are.

Do women do this just to piss men off ? Why do I suddenly become attractive to these women at the very moment I'm useless to them ?

I dont know what she wants, but you better ride her just to be on the safe side

Cungi

OP they can smell teh sex off ya. And they want some.

Ledger

I have a similar problem OP,

My wallet has too much money in it. It won't fit in my pocket.

Wibbs

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

They still haven't proven why, just that it's the case. This is supposedly the most plausible theory. Makes sense to me.

Another aspect may be to do with risk. Women are more risk averse than men in general. It's been cited as a possible reason why women are more likely to believe in horoscopes, be superstitious and religious. Hedging one's bets with the universe/fates/god(s).

It kinda makes sense. Women traditionally had/have more to lose in the reproductive arena. They have only a few chances to reproduce in life and that has a time limit by comparison to men. On top of that they're vulnerable through pregnancy and there was a time old women were rare enough as childbirth often resulted in the death of the mother. Then we have the nursing stage where again women were more vulnerable and needed more support. For most of human history being selectie about who they slept with was a very good bet, could be the difference between life and death for her and her kids.

So a man that has already been vetted by another woman reduces that risk and he will tend to have more perceived value for the risk averse.

dazed+confused

I always find it funny when someone asks a question about women in After Hours. Nobody here has been with, or even touched (excluding "accidental" touching in crowded places) a woman in years!

Eve_Dublin

Personally speaking, I don't think I've ever knowingly found a lad in a relationship more attractive or should I say, the fact that a guy was in a relationship never made them seem more attractive - in fact, I've always found it a turn off. When I was single, I tended to fancy fellas I actually had a chance with and the very fact that they were single and not "tied down" (as I saw it back then) was a turn on. I think I might've seen lads in relationships as a bit boring (obviously that outlook now has changed). The unrequited fancying has never happened as far as I can remember (unrequited love did, unfortunately but we were sleeping together). I've always gone for guys who were a sure thing. I can't relate at all to people who fancy and go for people in relationships and have absolutely no chance with them. I suppose I've always had some control over who I've fancied.

But I'm not averse to risk though.

Cereal Number

Just shows how women defend their behaviour, stating that the OP no longer appears "desperate"



Women of Ireland, ye arent special, get over yourselves.


No bloody wonder all of my mates have non-national girlfriends, far less bullshít with them