Hello All. Need Help Here !

Tower77

Hi. I have fallen big time for a girl that I work with. She is two years older than me and a single mother I’m 37 permanent in my job and single. We have always got on great and went out once a few months back. When I asked her out the following week said yes but then pulled back as she was nervous about work. I respected her decision and kept on a good work friendly relationship with her. That was two months ago. Then out of the blue she asked me out a few weeks back. Of course I jumped at the opportunity but played it cool. As her child was ill we had to put off a date for a few weeks. In the meantime we kept up chatting the odd flirt and text, that sort of thing. When finally the night came for us to go out I was as nervous as crap and I think she was too being a bit of a shy personality like me at times. During the night there were a few laughs and that but I drew the line at trying anything on. In the end the conversation went a bit flat and we had a quiet moment where I told her that “ I like her “ but to be honest it’s more than that I feel. I apologised the following day for being so nervous and we laughed it off. She is the first thing I think of in the morning and I am just happy to see her walk in the door to work. If things were somehow to work out I don’t care how slow they would have to move. I have the option in a few months of transferring a new job and I also have the option to stay where I am. Because of that I feel under pressure for time. For this woman I would do anything. I just want some perspective and advice here. This is the one thing in life I cannot be wrong about which kinda sums up how I feel right now 

Roisy7

OK I would take it very very slowly. There does seem to be potential here but you do work together and she is right to be cautious about that. Also you don't mention how old her kid(s) are but she might want to take things slow on that account.

I wouldn't worry about a transfer at this point, I think you should take things at face value and enjoy each other's company for the time being. Best of luck.

LegacyUser

OP, you two are not in a relationship, everything is just very new. You know how you feel about her but you don't know how she feels about you and of course she likes to take things slow because of her child or any other reasons. If I was you, I would do whats best for me at the moment, you need to be happy first, if you are happy where you are then stay or you prefer a new job then get transferred. It's an early stage you just have to take things slow and do whats best for you. Is the other job abroad or just in different county?

CaraMay

Are you going out again?

Lorna123

Things could work out better for you if you moved job. At least you could concentrate on your work !!! If you get involved with this woman and things don't work out it might be awkward for you both working in the same place. If you decide to move to the other job you could then have a good excuse to ask her out more often as you don't see her that often. However, I would not move jobs just to facilitate this, you need to weigh up the pros and cons of moving job and the job needs to be the most important consideration as it might be the thing that lasts the longest !