Worth while to ask?

_dublinlad_

A minor issue but would appreciate any thoughts anyway.

Currently a backpacker... Checked into a new hostel. Immediately met a girl in my room and hit it off straight away. If anything she pursued me from the beginning. We kissed on a night out and spent the rest of the week all over each other. Been backpacking for nearly a year now, haven't really met a girl I've been interested in as much as this one. She seemed overly keen on me to the point I was taken back by it a little. She then went on a four day road trip with some of her girl friends. When she came back she seemed very stand offish with me... since then she has shown no interest and we are now just friends.

So what I'm asking is ... in a case like this is it worth my while asking why the sudden change of feelings? I know it could be one of a million things it would just be nice to know. Would it be awkward to ask or would it be worth my while knowing because I am obviously thinking the worst.

Cheeeers

P. Breathnach

What's the worst?

It looks to me that she had a week of fun with you, and it's over. How bad is that?

I suspect that if you asked her to explain, you would be in a very awkward conversation, and that you would gain nothing from it.

_dublinlad_

Worst being that I said or did something to put her right off. I can imagine it would be an awkward conversation.. but I speak to a lot every day and its like there is a giant pink elephant in the room now.

P. Breathnach

I got the impression from your first post of a girl who might be out for a bit of fun, and that her idea of fun is a succession of brief flings. Might that be the case?

ShowMeTheCash

I would let it go, be aloof....
If someone likes you they tend to let it be known.
You say that her over keen attitude put you back at the beginning...
Perhaps you are misreading things, would you say that perhaps before this trip you had been a little over keen?

It looks like she does not want to pick up where you guys left off...
Or perhaps, she does not want to get into a situation where she feels the need to sit down and "have a talk"... If you are back packing, I am not sure if getting into something is on the top of most peoples list!

How long did you guys hook up for?

_dublinlad_

ShowMeTheCash wrote: »

I would let it go, be aloof....
If someone likes you they tend to let it be known.
You say that her over keen attitude put you back at the beginning...
Perhaps you are misreading things, would you say that perhaps before this trip you had been a little over keen?

It looks like she does not want to pick up where you guys left off...
Or perhaps, she does not want to get into a situation where she feels the need to sit down and "have a talk"... If you are back packing, I am not sure if getting into something is on the top of most peoples list!

How long did you guys hook up for?

I have been acting like I'm fine and I'm not bothered by it (which I am not overly).. that's probably how I am going to keep it. I certainly didn't act over keen at the beginning or at any stage, she would almost always come to me.

Don't get me wrong I'm not looking for a Gf here and never gave off that impression I don't think. just a wonderment how it went from so hot to so cold is all.

We only hooked up for about a week.

Lux23

She could have met someone else while she was away and maybe felt she had to cool it with you?

Lorna123

The reason she is acting like this is because she has lost interest and is embarrassed when she sees you. That is your answer and you dont need to know the whys and the wherefores. You won't get anywhere asking her straight out, she will fob you off. Her actions tell you what you need to know. I don't like how she behaved and she is showing you what she is made of so steer clear of her in the future. Sorry Op but there are all sorts of people in this world who don't treat others in a nice way and she is one of them.

_dublinlad_

Lorna123 wrote: »

The reason she is acting like this is because she has lost interest and is embarrassed when she sees you. That is your answer and you dont need to know the whys and the wherefores. You won't get anywhere asking her straight out, she will fob you off. Her actions tell you what you need to know. I don't like how she behaved and she is showing you what she is made of so steer clear of her in the future. Sorry Op but there are all sorts of people in this world who don't treat others in a nice way and she is one of them.

I know she has lost interest in me. That is very clear. She is in no way embarrassed when she sees me.. it's like nothing ever happened with her. I do agree that asking her would be awkward and she would more then likely fob me off with some excuse, so I certainly won't be asking her.

However I don't see any reason to steer clear of her. She did nothing wrong really... I mean what was she suppose to do, the moment she lost interest come over and tell me?

Lorna123

You seem to have a pretty clear understanding of the situation, so best of luck with that.