Lost interest in even talking to women

LegacyUser

I'm seeking advice on this because it doesn't feel normal. I'm 23 and nearly a year ago my ex girlfriend broke up with me. Initially I was texting a lot of different girls and making effort on nights out to talk to women. I went on holiday with mates and hit it off with a fair few girls. But over the past few months I feel like I've lost interest in even texting anyone from the opposite sex. I pretty much have no use for my phone other than contacting friends. On nights out I just go out and have a dance and don't even bother trying it on with anyone. It doesn't feel normal because I know a lot of single lads my age would date plenty of different girls or at the very least make an attempt in nightclubs. But I just don't feel bothered and I'm not sure why. If it's an indicator of not being over my previous relationship its a bit pathetic considering its finished nearly a year ago. Thoughts?

jantheman91

Completely reasonable. If a woman has hurt you in the past no matter how much you've moved on you'll never forget. I'd be like you in this respect. Since my ex broke up with me i've no interest in women. Just concentrating on myself, my education and my family and friends.

I don't think you should be worrying at all. Whether it's normal behaviour or not is irrelevant. If you're enjoying life then why does it matter?

On that note, i'd guess that you've been hurt in the past and don't want it to happen again. I would say that not all women/men are the same but i'd be tempting fate. Just keep doing what makes you happy it won't steer you far wrong.

Best of luck!

MissDucky

Literally two of the same posts going on here from the male and female point of view! Iv just posted on the other one as i could really relate to it female early 20s like youself out of a relationship and just not interested in lads although I'm definitely over my ex I find myself comparing guys to him all the time don't know if its the same with you but have a look at some of the replies on the other post I'm sure they apply just as much to yourself as they do to the girls

LegacyUser

jantheman91 wrote: »

Completely reasonable. If a woman has hurt you in the past no matter how much you've moved on you'll never forget. I'd be like you in this respect. Since my ex broke up with me i've no interest in women. Just concentrating on myself, my education and my family and friends.

I don't think you should be worrying at all. Whether it's normal behaviour or not is irrelevant. If you're enjoying life then why does it matter?

On that note, i'd guess that you've been hurt in the past and don't want it to happen again. I would say that not all women/men are the same but i'd be tempting fate. Just keep doing what makes you happy it won't steer you far wrong.

Best of luck!

See the thing is I'm not sure if I'm enjoying life as much as I would be if I was "playing the field" to put it one way. At this age I'm fairly certain most lads would be goin around trying to get with as many girls as possible. I just don't feel like it though. Feels like I'm going in reverse as in I thought I'd feel this after the break up and gradually want to get with different girls but it's the opposite.

Roisy7

Sounds like a delayed reaction to the breakup. Possibly you didn't give yourself enough time to to get over the relationship and it's hitting you now.

Don't beat yourself up about what's normal and not. Maybe you're missing a deeper connection. Be kind to yourself for the moment

RossFixxxed

At this age I'm fairly certain most lads would be goin around trying to get with as many girls as possible. I just don't feel like it though.

You shouldn't then! If you don't want to be doing it then simply don't. The mood may take you down the line after some healing and you should go for it. Don't try to live through what you think you should be doing. Do what you want, and what you feel is the right thing to do. Hurt is weird, and healing is different for everyone. Enjoy being single and if someone lovely falls into your lap: BONUS!