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struggle with friends

  • 01-02-2013 9:20pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi...i guess my problem is that I'm mid twenties and I've never had a strong group of friends. I drifted between groups in school and have a handful of friends from college. but mostly they are just acquaintances. I moved in with a friend for a year and came out of it and pretty much havent spoken since. I don't think I'm a bad person but sometimes it feels really isolating not to have a strong group of friends. I look around at people that have known each other for years and will always be there for each other and I don't have that. I have a great boyfriend. I never really have had issues with a social life, I go out most weekends but it always seems to be with a new group of people. Its always quite transient.

    I don't know...


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  • #2
    Lionel Messy
    Site Banned Posts: 612 ✭✭✭Lionel Messy


    Do you like travel? I have less people in my life than you. I know it's tough but I just recommend travel. It's so great. A good holiday is really inspiring and can influence your life when you come home. I'm going to Berlin and I'm afraid I'll cry with joy when I come home.


  • #3
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    I'm pretty much the same as you - I never had a core group of friends throughout work, school, college/university, and I was always instead drifting between groups. Fundamentally, I was never able to get so close to someone that it mattered much as a long term thing, instead getting only close enough to form 'temporal' friendships. That said, like you, I have a great partner currently.

    I guess that it's useful to think that not every one of us is going to be like the common person. The common person seemingly forms a group of friends and sticks with them for many years. Let me ask you a question, though: is it actually necessary to form long-term friendships?

    As Lionel Messy said, travelling around can be a great thing for people like us because it means we form temporal relationships with those that we meet and then we can always go back or move on. I emigrated to the UK in 2009 (grew up in Naas, Kildare), and I'm emigrating to New York next month. When I'm done with New York, I'm sure that I'll be off elsewhere.

    What started my thirst for travel was to just buy an air-ticket to Argentina and then deal with the logistics afterwards. Since then, I've been all over the world..

    Kevin


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