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  • 27-01-2013 12:23am
    #1
    WhatNowHow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 66 ✭✭


    My OH ended things a month ago we had been together for 3years. I keep getting told that I'll get over him but now it feels like I don't want to. Is this normal? I want him to want me back. We've had no contact so far but in a few weeks I want to give him back his things and get sum of mine back off him. I'm hoping that he'll have had a change of heart. Am I mad? :(


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  • #2
    sparkle_23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 654 ✭✭✭sparkle_23


    That is a completely normal way to feel. When I've gone through a break up in the past my feelings change from day to day! So angry that I hate the person, sad and wanting them back, smiling remembering happy times and then that empty feeling that reminds you that there will be no more. :( It will pass eventually. Just take each day at a time. Everyone feels as if they will get back together with their ex. Time will pass and whatever is right will happen :)


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    You have no idea OP. But it will. Try falling in love with someone who is bipolar: you are torn between loving one side of them and absolutely despising the other.

    It takes time, but it gets better.


  • #4
    Flutterby80
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 220 ✭✭Flutterby80


    You want him to want you back because the feelings of rejection can be the hardest part of a breakup especially if you didn't see it coming. Realistically you have no way of knowing if he is going to change his mind in a few weeks/months so you can't live your life hoping he will come back to you. Try to get into the mindset that it is over and he is never coming back, this is the only way to move forward with your own life and become your own person again.

    You can and will survive without him, believe me I know this ,but , until you let go of him and allow yourself to visualise life without him you will remain stuck where you are now. Every time you start day dreaming about him changing his mind, tell yourself "STOP", out loud if you can! and ask yourself "how are these thoughts helping me right now"?

    It's very early days for you so go easy on yourself because noone knows what will happen in the future but you cannot live your life basing your happiness around another person who may not be giving you a second thought.


  • #5
    WhatNowHow
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 66 ✭✭WhatNowHow


    Thanks for the replies guys, they have really helped!


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