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Sex problem

  • 26-01-2013 7:25pm
    #1
    Hannah Gigi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17 ✭


    This is going to be pretty awkward and embarrassing to write, so please don't judge!

    I'm in my mid-twenties and am worried about my sex life (or lack of), I've always just pushed it to the back of my mind but lately I've realised that I should probably sort it out.

    My first sexual encounter was when I was 19/20, had a one-night stand with a guy I'd just met. Penetration was very painful for me and I had to make him stop but I did bleed so he must have got it in somewhat.

    Next time was a couple years later. I started seeing a guy but any time we tried to have sex, he couldn't get it in. The whole "relationship" was a bit of a mess, he treated me quite badly and I never really trusted him so I thought that's why it never worked.

    Then recently I was seeing someone else and the same thing happened - he couldn't get it in. This guy I really liked and wanted it to happen. We only tried once though because after this the relationship fell apart for other reasons.

    I'm worried that I have vaginismus and I don't know what to do. I hate feeling like a freak and I think I'm never going to be able to have a proper relationship. Any advice would be appreciated.


Comments

  • #2
    ABajaninCork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,411 ✭✭✭ABajaninCork


    See your GP for a check-up. Make sure there is no medical reason, and put your mind at rest.

    Lots of people will tell you to relax and it will happen naturally. However, a spot of counselling wouldn't do any harm either.

    Good luck! :)


  • #3
    Cerulean Chicken
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,565 ✭✭✭Cerulean Chicken


    Go to your GP for a chat?


  • #4
    Wise Old Elf
    Moderators Posts: 3,554 ✭✭✭Wise Old Elf


    Agree with the other posters, a trip to GP or wellwoman clinic is a good start.
    This happened a partner of mine, and well woman started a program with physical and counselling elements, all sorted after a while.
    It may be vaginismus, or anything else, but don't beat yourself up, be patient and talk to the pros, and your partner about it.


  • #5
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Hey there, we are not allowed to give medical advice so you really need to contact your GP and get a proper diagnosis and they will be able to point you in the direction of appropriate treatment.

    All the very best.


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