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Serial Overthinker

  • 25-01-2013 5:45pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I think about every little issue facing me way too much. This is a problem that has plagued me since I was 12 and I'm now 25 but have only decided to seek advice now. I've always been a hopeless sleeper because I'd sit up at night just thinking about every little thing that isn't right in my life. For example at the minute I've developed a liking for someone that I can't have. I was up until last night at 4 thinking about it. I didn't get out of bed until 4 today because I was lying there thinking about it. I don't even feel like doing anything other than thinking.

    People say distract yourself but my brain doesn't listen when I try. I'd watch TV or something and end up pondering about issues that aren't right in my life. My question is, how do I stop giving so much of a fu*k about everything? It makes awkward situations even worse when I don't stop thinking about them. I know everyone has issues in their life that they wish were better, but not everyone endlessly thinks about them to such an extent that they become depressed.


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  • #2
    Monkey Allen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166 ✭✭Monkey Allen


    If you choose to enjoy life, you will. These things that bother you might be out of your control but life goes on. Spending time thinking about them is time wasted. Thats said over and over again. But that only doesnt work when you see doing anything else as requiring a massive effort. When you're dong things you want to do, there is no effort required. Buy yourself a guitar and learn how to play it.

    Life isn't about being distracted from the issues in our lives. To me, it's about learning new things and meeting new people. This girl you're thinking about will be forgotten about when you meet someone you like who you can have.


  • #3
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    ThinkingMan13, I think that my own brain travels at a speed that is faster than that of light itself ... ie - I'm also an overthinker.

    From a purely biological and evolutionary perspective, I believe that some of us are born with brains that record and take notice of the negative things more than the positive. Everyone does this to some degree - yes - but some of us seem to have the negative things ingrained even 'deeper' still into our memories... which results in us thinking about them more.

    I mentioned evolution above because it can be seen as an advantage to remember the negative things [so that you won't repeat them again and will stay out of danger].

    I found hope by focussing my enormous brain energy on my studies. I also went onto online forums and startd 'religiously' helping other people on forums for depression and other mental illnesses. So, there is certainly something to be said for 'distracting' your brain, but you obviously need a plan in order to do this. You can't just say - 'okay, I'll distract myself now' - and then hope for everything to become rosy.

    Plan something in the future and then do it. Do things differently and embrace the new ... your brain will appreciate the new experiences and you might then eventually notice an improvement.

    Kevin


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