Z S Why do ladies treat me so harshly?

Spry

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OP, this thread goes against the charter of the ladies lounge, I've moved it to personal issues. Please read the charter of this forum.

Could you give more information? Your relationship with your mother and the position of your hairline don't exactly give a picture of you as a person.

You mention your friends' success with women and the way women your age have treated you for most of your life. Are you saying that you just have bad luck romantically with women or are you saying you feel treated badly by women? Do you have many female friends your age?

skyfall2012

Ok, if you want to meet an intelligent woman, then you must use your intelligence and charm to win her over, it is not rocket science. Stop being a Momma's boy, and start looking after yourself. Independence, intelligence, wit and charm and you will have women queuing up at your door.

R.D. aka MR.D

You sound kind of like a friend of mine.

He had a romantic interest in me which i was not willing to pursue because I wasn't interested.

After we became better friends he would ask why women weren't interested in him and why women this and why women that.

I told him straight up the reason that I didn't have any interest in him despite the fact that he's quite good looking is that he is full of self pity and that is a huge turn off.

He blamed women for his problems when in fact he was the problem. I honestly think that was easier for him than working on himself to become a better, more rounded person.

I don't know if it's exactly the same in your case but your posts come across as if you think there is something wrong with women and not with you. "how they've treated me".

openup

You sound like the infuriating "nice guy" type.

You seem to think that by not fancying you women have mistreated you, which is just bizarre.
I'm 22 I've only had one relationship which lasted two months, I never get much attention from men despite being pretty, funny, intelligent and talented, and I am the only one of my friends not in a serious relationship. But I'm not banging on about how men have treated my harshly (perhaps one or two have, but men in the abstract?), or how I should have a boyfriend because I love my Dad.

You seem full of sell pity which I don't is helping anyway. It's nobody else's fault that you're single (it's may not be your fault either) so stop trying to blame them.

What have you got to even offer a woman? So, you're not ugly and you don't hate women, which is basically every guy. So are you really funny? Do you play guitar? Cook? Travel? Like X as much a she does? Do you click really well?

Even if you are the best person in the world, you may still be single because luck plays a large part. Just don't dwell on it so much.

AnonoBoy

I'm not quite clear as to how women have 'mistreated' you.

I've had horrendous girlfriends in the past but I would say that they mistreated me, not women in general.

Is it that you've been messed around by some women in particular or that you think you've been mistreated because nobody has gone out with you?

RossFixxxed

Women have taught you, you care about them.... but they have mistreated you? What?

You have a lot of signs of "nice guy." Not BEING a nice, decent guy, but actual 'nice guy syndrome'. Well worth reading about.

Short version: no woman owes you dates etc, and if you feel mistreated because you can't get a date then you are on completely and utterly the wrong track.

This is another every woman is wrong, not me thread. I have to be frank here, it is you in the wrong. I don't know why, I don't know you. But you may be unhygenic, you may be mopey, boring, tiring, self absorbed, a buzz kill. You may have an attitude towards women that puts them off. You may be too shy, too cocky, too intense. It goes on. You need to have a look at yourself, and consider why your friends are doing ok but not yourself.

There's tons of handsome guys out there. That's a part of it sure, but it's usually charm, wit, fun, intelligence, confidence, a cheeky smile, a certain look in the eyes, a great sense of humour, a bit of an edge etc that makes someone attractive.

I don't have a magic solution, but I'd be willing to bet you have a weird attitude towards women if your post is anything to go on.

Hardonraging

I think a lot of the reply have hit on your main issues already , you seem to be a decent guy, but women dont want a decent guy, they want a guy to be a man !, not to be nice, and a push over, you may never be an alpha male, but looking to into the behaviour that goes along with it, and pick out the traits you can use, i.e standing up for your self, having your own views on things, being able to cope with any situation .. etc..

Once you manage tho pick up a few traits, test them out, dont go over board, from one extreme to another essentially,build up your confidence, women, love a confident guy ( not an overly cocky guy) a confident guy !!

Nymeria

RossFixxxed wrote: »

You have a lot of signs of "nice guy." Not BEING a nice, decent guy, but actual 'nice guy syndrome'. Well worth reading about.

From Urban Dictionary:

Nice Guy Syndrome

A annoying mental condition in which a heterosexual man concocts over simplified ideas why women aren’t flocking to him in droves. Typically this male will whine and complain about how women never want to date them because he is “too nice” or that he is average in appearance. He often targets a woman who is already in a relationship; misrepresenting his intentions of wanting to be her friend and having the expectation that he is owed more than friendship because he is such a good listener. He is prone to brooding over this and passive aggressive behavior.

He is too stupid to realize the reason women don’t find him attractive is because he feels sorry for himself, he concludes that women like to be treated like ****.


OP, I read your post before you deleted and feel have the same response as the other - no woman owes you a date just because you are nice to her. And having a little sister that you love and care about does not mean you can speak for all women and generalise.

I'm getting really tired of all these 'woe is me, all women are b!tches because I can't get a girlfriend/get laid' posts around lately; it's as bad as the 'all men are bastards' crap you hear, and just as untrue.
Just because one woman treated you bad, or the object of your attraction doesn't reciprocate, does not mean that there is a conspiracy against you.