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Dating for Disabled People

wolly_holly · 2013-01-08 12:02:37

Hey I have a friend who is disabled.. and is having quite a hard time with online dating The disabilty is quite severe. She was born with one leg, and no hands (only arms).. and also shes only about a meter tall Even with all that , she can drive a car and get around by herself but I think being disabled gives makes online…

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Hey

I have a friend who is disabled..

and is having quite a hard time with online dating

The disabilty is quite severe. She was born with one leg, and no hands (only arms).. and also shes only about a meter tall

Even with all that , she can drive a car and get around by herself

but I think being disabled gives makes online dating much harder for her (and it already sucks.. I havent tried it for years)

I'm just wondering if theres anything I can do to help her with dating..
or is it something that she has to work out for herself

ps: She lives in UK so she wont read this

hop this is correct forum.. I just have to ask somewhere

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#2 08-01-2013 12:03pm

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wolly_holly wrote: »

ps: She lives in UK so she wont read this

Boards.ie isn't available in the UK? :pac:

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#3 08-01-2013 12:04pm

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Oh and this isn't the correct forum for this, if it's a genuine question! You'll get nothing but smart answers like mine

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#4 08-01-2013 12:05pm

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There is absolutely nothing you can do to help.

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#5 08-01-2013 12:05pm

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Did you try that Google yoke?

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#6 08-01-2013 12:06pm

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Must.Resist.Urge.To.Reply.....

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#7 08-01-2013 12:07pm

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OP why don't you go out with her?

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#8 08-01-2013 12:08pm

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id be honored to be ur 100,000th post

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#9 08-01-2013 12:08pm

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What sort of car does she drive?

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#10 08-01-2013 12:08pm

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wrong sex..

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#11 08-01-2013 12:09pm

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I'll give her a go,

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#12 08-01-2013 12:09pm

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SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

What sort of car does she drive?

not sure, I can find out

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#13 08-01-2013 12:10pm

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SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

Did you try that Google yoke?

I wonder why we have a discussion forum when people give answers like this.

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#14 08-01-2013 12:11pm

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I'm in the UK and I'm reading this. Wouldn't have thought being disabled was a handicap in the dating scene. Lots of people are attracted to disabled people. I've got quite a thing for blind men and amputees. If I could find a gorgeous Swedish man with long blond hair, who was blind and had a leg amputated at the knee, that would be my fantasy come true.

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#15 08-01-2013 12:11pm

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wolly_holly wrote: »

id be honored to be ur 100,000th post

What's all that about?

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#16 08-01-2013 12:11pm

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There is absolutely nothing you can do to help.

maybe ur right

I just had to ask

i taught there could have been some way I could help

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#17 08-01-2013 12:13pm

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Op you would be far better posting something like this in the disability Forum which you can find here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=384
After hours is full of smart asses looking to give the most politically incorrect reply to any question so definitely the wrong place for this!

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#18 08-01-2013 12:13pm

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PizzamanIRL wrote: »

What's all that about?

i saw antodeco had 99,999 posts

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#19 08-01-2013 12:13pm

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wolly_holly wrote: »

I'm just wondering if theres anything I can do to help her with dating..
or is it something that she has to work out for herself

As for all other people, she'll have to keep at it until one day she finds Mr Right.

AH answer: being able to park anywhere is a big plus. Some guys would find that attractive.

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#20 08-01-2013 12:14pm

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wolly_holly wrote: »

maybe ur right

I just had to ask

i taught there could have been some way I could help

there may be some help you can give but you're not gone to get the answer here! Get out quick, while you can...

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#21 08-01-2013 12:14pm

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clusk007 wrote: »

Op you would be far better posting something like this in the disability Forum which you can find here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=384
After hours is full of smart asses looking to give the most politically incorrect reply to any question so definitely the wrong place for this!

yeah, but After Hours can also brutally honest as well

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#22 08-01-2013 12:16pm

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wolly_holly wrote: »

yeah, but After Hours can also brutally honest as well

Brutal is a good word

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#23 08-01-2013 12:18pm

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wolly_holly wrote: »

Hey

I have a friend who is disabled..

and is having quite a hard time with online dating

The disabilty is quite severe. She was born with one leg, and no hands (only arms).. and also shes only about a meter tall

Even with all that , she can drive a car and get around by herself

but I think being disabled gives makes online dating much harder for her (and it already sucks.. I havent tried it for years)

I'm just wondering if theres anything I can do to help her with dating..
or is it something that she has to work out for herself

ps: She lives in UK so she wont read this

hop this is correct forum.. I just have to ask somewhere

I don't believe for a second you just happened upon After Hours on an Irish discussion website while searching for "dating websites for disabled people in the UK", but how and ever anyway, here's the "hard work" done for you-

http://www.datingresources.co.uk/disabled-dating/

My own personal opinion if you're actually genuinely serious, is that you let her find her own dates, nobody likes being set up by their friends with somebody their friends think would be "good for them".

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#24 08-01-2013 12:18pm

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Could you suggest being a friend with disability benefits?

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#25 08-01-2013 12:53pm

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anncoates wrote: »

Could you suggest being a friend with disability benefits?

Deals on wheels

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#26 08-01-2013 12:57pm

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I weep for humanity reading some of the replies here

It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.
Terry Pratchet

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#27 08-01-2013 1:03pm

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anncoates wrote: »

Could you suggest being a friend with disability benefits?

I shouldn't have, but I lol'ed

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#28 08-01-2013 1:09pm

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but I think being disabled gives makes online dating much harder for her (and it already sucks.. I havent tried it for years)

The last time I used online dating was about 8 years ago, but to be honest it had improved alot since I first used it.

I would say so long as she is upfront and honest about her condition she will get some interest. Everyone has flaws. The only advice I can give is to use a paid site as opposed to a free one, because that way you get people serious about meeting people and not just people there for the laugh.

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#29 08-01-2013 1:16pm

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There is only 1 man for the job..."giggidy" :pac:

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#30 08-01-2013 1:16pm

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Any pics? one of the car as well please.

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#31 08-01-2013 1:16pm

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How does she drive "with one leg, and no hands (only arms)" ?
What's her condition called?

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#32 08-01-2013 1:17pm

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antodeco wrote: »

Must.Resist.Urge.To.Reply.....

You're doing well so far :pac:

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#33 08-01-2013 1:18pm

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Tell her to put one foot in front of the other and get out there into the real world and find a man...

Oh wait...

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#34 08-01-2013 1:20pm

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Standard Toaster wrote: »

How does she drive "with one leg, and no hands (only arms)" ?

Most women do when putting on their make-up on their way to work.

Standard Toaster wrote: »

What's her condition called?

Unlucky

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#35 08-01-2013 1:23pm

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i'm a nervous passenger i don't think i could go out on a date in that car

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#36 08-01-2013 1:24pm

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I see "The Friendly Irish" are in. I can't believe how people can be so easily rude about disability. Then again, It's just geeky keyboard warriors hiding behind their own vulnerabilities.

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#37 08-01-2013 1:25pm

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CreepingDeath wrote: »

Most women do when putting on their make-up on their way to work.

Oh oh!

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#38 08-01-2013 1:51pm

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in for pics

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#39 08-01-2013 2:05pm

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Czarcasm wrote: »

My own personal opinion if you're actually genuinely serious, is that you let her find her own dates, nobody likes being set up by their friends with somebody their friends think would be "good for them".

+1, Keep your nose out of her affairs wooly holly

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#40 08-01-2013 2:18pm

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Czarcasm wrote: »

I don't believe for a second you just happened upon After Hours on an Irish discussion website while searching for "dating websites for disabled people in the UK"

I wouldn't be surprised

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#41 08-01-2013 2:37pm

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nocoverart wrote: »

I see "The Friendly Irish" are in. I can't believe how people can be so easily rude about disability. Then again, It's just geeky keyboard warriors hiding behind their own vulnerabilities.

And they think they're funny too!

It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.
Terry Pratchet

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#42 08-01-2013 3:13pm

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StormWarrior wrote: »

If I could find a gorgeous Swedish man with long blond hair, who was blind and had a leg amputated at the knee, that would be my fantasy come true.

On purpose accidents happen all the time. Rehab is a great place to get to know someone too because they can't escape.

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#43 08-01-2013 3:16pm

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mango salsa wrote: »

And they think they're funny too!

You sound like my ma when I was a kid.

Da What did he do now?

Ma: He pulled the legs off his sister's Barbie and (pointedly ignoring me) and what's more, he thinks it hilarious!!!!

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#44 08-01-2013 3:18pm

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anncoates wrote: »

You sound like my ma when I was a kid.

Da What did he do now?

Ma: He pulled the legs off his sister's Barbie and (pointedly ignoring me) and what's more, he thinks it hilarious!!!!

All of the replies here are ridiculous and cringeworthy

It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.
Terry Pratchet

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#45 08-01-2013 3:19pm

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mango salsa wrote: »

All of the replies here are ridiculous and cringeworthy

I think they're fairly light0herated and harmless.

Plus I'd be surprised if the OP is genuine.

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