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Lunch - Friend Zone or not?

  • 04-01-2013 7:43pm
    #1
    pm123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭


    I've known this girl for quite a while; we're friends, I suppose you could say. I want to say can we go grab lunch some time if you're around; but is this dangerous - is this stepping into the friend zone so to speak or is it okay - I mean it's too soon for a dinner date or whatever - I don't want to come on too strong - I just want something casual just so we can chat and hang out? Thoughts?


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  • #2
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    As a female, I would suggest askin her to an evening kind of thing. Not necessarily dinner but maybe for a drink. Or if there is a gig or anything at all you share an interest in that would be on in the evening? Lunch is ok, it's just a bit hard to read.


  • #3
    pm123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭pm123


    Okay cool Thanks a million!!!!!!


  • #4
    RubyWoo83
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 118 ✭✭RubyWoo83


    Sorry but why is it too soon for dinner? I've often gone for dinner on the first date, it's perfectly normal.


  • #5
    judgefudge
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭judgefudge


    Depends on the person I guess. But sometimes dinner can seem very formal, especially if you are friends first. Wouldnt be so easy to relax and chill out together. It may be better for a second or third date I think... But it really depends what you're used to I think.


  • #6
    RubyWoo83
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 118 ✭✭RubyWoo83


    I don't know, first couple of mins can be a bit formal but once you get some food and wine it's the best kind of first date. You can't but talk & get to know each other.

    I would go for the dinner to be honest. Especially seen as you are already friends; lunch is a friendly kind of thing to do. Dinner will leave her in no doubt that you are interested in more


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  • #7
    Roisy7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Roisy7


    Depends on the age group really- under 25 and going for dinner might be a bit too formal. How about the cinema? :)


  • #8
    Meauldsegosha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,607 ✭✭✭Meauldsegosha


    Roisy7 wrote: »
    Depends on the age group really- under 25 and going for dinner might be a bit too formal. How about the cinema? :)

    I agree dinner can be too formal but the cinema doesn't give much opportunity to chat which is what the OP wants. Lunch would be fine as a starting point.


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