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Is it ok to be seeing someone who has a child

trxking · 2013-01-02 12:04:45

and still in a relationship but there not even having *** just staying together for the kids sake..and unhappy lol any advice is it wrong???

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and still in a relationship but there not even having *** just staying together for the kids sake..and unhappy lol any advice

is it wrong???

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#2 02-01-2013 12:13pm

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How do you know they aren't having sex and are so unhappy?

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#3 02-01-2013 12:15pm

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dearg lady wrote: »

How do you know they aren't having sex and are so unhappy?

because I was told and I just know

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#4 02-01-2013 12:16pm

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trxking wrote: »

because I was told and I just know

Well if you just know then it's fine.

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#5 02-01-2013 12:16pm

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dearg lady wrote: »

How do you know they aren't having sex and are so unhappy?

think the lexapro covers the unhappy part

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#6 02-01-2013 12:23pm

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lexapro? I think you know it's not a good situation, that's why you're asking. It's not fair for them to hide this from their partner. they should finish one relationship before starting another. Unless you are all happy wth an open relationship

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#7 02-01-2013 12:27pm

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dearg lady wrote: »

lexapro? I think you know it's not a good situation, that's why you're asking. It's not fair for them to hide this from their partner. they should finish one relationship before starting another. Unless you are all happy wth an open relationship

yeah but they can't leave because of the kids..We were with each other for two years but broke a couple months before there relationship started

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#8 02-01-2013 12:35pm

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yes they can, it's just an excuse.
It does make it more complicated that you have a history, but what is goin to happen, will they stay together until the child is grown up, and then break up?

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#9 02-01-2013 12:39pm

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dearg lady wrote: »

yes they can, it's just an excuse.
It does make it more complicated that you have a history, but what is goin to happen, will they stay together until the child is grown up, and then break up?

LOL no the kids are 5 and 1

how can they they own the house not paying rent so can hardly leave..

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#10 02-01-2013 12:40pm

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Well, unless you've installed a secret spy camera in the house you can't ever know what truly is going on there.

My advice to you is to steer well clear. These sorts of people very rarely leave you know. There will always be some excuse; they're staying for the sake of the kids. It's too near valentine's day/kid's birthday/partner's birthday/Christmas etc.

Only have anything to do with this person if they actually leave. You'll be waiting I bet....

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#11 02-01-2013 12:42pm

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cymbaline wrote: »

Well, unless you've installed a secret spy camera in the house you can't ever know what truly is going on there.

My advice to you is to steer well clear. These sorts of people very rarely leave you know. There will always be some excuse; they're staying for the sake of the kids. It's too near valentine's day/kid's birthday/partner's birthday/Christmas etc.

Only have anything to do with this person if they actually leave. You'll be waiting I bet....

I dont care i can see other people while i wait...There not happy so only matter of time..

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#12 02-01-2013 12:43pm

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trxking wrote: »

LOL no the kids are 5 and 1

how can they they own the house not paying rent so can hardly leave..

so honestly what is going to happen? When will they split up? Are you prepared to wait forever?

When there's houses and children involved things are more complicated, but not impossible, couples split up all the time.

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#13 02-01-2013 12:44pm

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It sounds like the pair of you deserve each other. Good luck to you

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#14 02-01-2013 12:52pm

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trxking wrote: »

LOL no the kids are 5 and 1

how can they they own the house not paying rent so can hardly leave..

Of course they can leave, people do it all the time. Things may be difficult financially and emotionally but "staying together for the kids" is a cope out. You're being fed a line and you know it or you wouldn't be on here seeking validation from strangers on the Internet.

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#15 02-01-2013 1:07pm

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I agree with the rest op best to end it.I been in that situation.Got the whole staying together for sake of kids story.They never leave unless they really love you.Its quiet simple.if she loved you she would had been with you now.I have a friend who left their father of their child but is now happy with someone else and raising the kid together.Please find someone else.

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#16 02-01-2013 1:17pm

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cymbaline wrote: »

It sounds like the pair of you deserve each other. Good luck to you

is that a joke

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#17 02-01-2013 1:19pm

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Meauldsegosha wrote: »

Of course they can leave, people do it all the time. Things may be difficult financially and emotionally but "staying together for the kids" is a cope out. You're being fed a line and you know it or you wouldn't be on here seeking validation from strangers on the Internet.

the thing I dont mind because I can see other people untill they split ..

why would you stay with someone if your not having *** and depressed..

Probably should tell there other half about us that would speed things up

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#18 02-01-2013 1:22pm

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dearg lady wrote: »

so honestly what is going to happen? When will they split up? Are you prepared to wait forever?

When there's houses and children involved things are more complicated, but not impossible, couples split up all the time.

Another thing is I said I dont Wanna see the kids If were to get together properly

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#19 02-01-2013 1:25pm

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trxking wrote: »

Another thing is I said I dont Wanna see the kids If were to get together properly

Are you for real?

If that's your attitude then why don't you find someone single and with no kids.

This is never going to work out.

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#20 02-01-2013 1:28pm

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westies4ever wrote: »

Are you for real?

If that's your attitude then why don't you find someone single and with no kids.

This is never going to work out.

We were together for two years before and on and off for ages since we were 15 both 24 now you think im really gonna be happy to have there kids around that aren't even mine....

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#21 02-01-2013 1:31pm

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Think that's a messed up situation? I feel your both liking the idea of sneeking around but it is not fair on the kids tbh! Any relationship needs end full stop before an other begins! Your both kidding yourselves if you think its going any place soon? Children need stability not adults playing teenage games? I am sorry if that seems harsh but the children are bigger picture here at the end of the day they come first!

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#22 02-01-2013 1:32pm

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trxking wrote: »

We were together for two years before and on and off for ages since we were 15 both 24 now you think im really gonna be happy to have there kids around that aren't even mine....

If you want it to work out you'll have to accept the kids, I can guarantee you that they will have to come first.

My husband has two kids from a previous, if I'd had your attitude he'd have sent me packing.

It's not the kids fault. They don't deserve what's happening here.

You should finish it. You sound too selfish and immature for this or any other relationship.

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#23 02-01-2013 1:32pm

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trxking, there is zero tolerance for muppetry in this forum - that includes asinine threads and posters who troll.

Please ensure you have read the forum charter prior to posting again and be aware that posters have lost their posting rights permanently for disingenuously attempting to engage the forum.

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