Feel lonely

Ashleyrush

im a teenage girl in secondary school and feel lonely . the friends i have in school dont contact me outside of school and the friend i have kept from primary school has her own group of friends in school. everyone has their own group of friends and thats established i cant just join a group i have my friends but i feel i dont belong in that group.. i dnt really get on with them , they never meet up outside school , never go to discos or any social events .. and my other friend goes to them all and asks why i dnt go... then when i suggest i go with her she shows me texts saying you know how we feel about your friend we dnt want too assosiate with her.and it hurts .. i feel like i have noone too meet up with or go out with and i see pics of everyone enjoying themselves on fb and i wish i was with them... and my friend chooses her other friends oover me ... any i feel like we have practically fallen out of friendship because when i am with her she is always on her fone or checking fb ... she even arranges meeting up with her other frends on front of me ? please help , advice....


Mod Edit: I've given you your own thread OP.

Rhys Essien

You could join a club to meet new people.Like say girls soccer,camogie or an athletics club.Try and get yourself a new circle of friends.

Rhys Essien

Forgot to say you might get better advice if you open a new thread.Just click on new thread in top left hand corner.

bakergirl91

Ashleyrush wrote: »

im a teenage girl in secondary school and feel lonely . the friends i have in school dont contact me outside of school and the friend i have kept from primary school has her own group of friends in school. everyone has their own group of friends and thats established i cant just join a group i have my friends but i feel i dont belong in that group.. i dnt really get on with them , they never meet up outside school , never go to discos or any social events .. and my other friend goes to them all and asks why i dnt go... then when i suggest i go with her she shows me texts saying you know how we feel about your friend we dnt want too assosiate with her.and it hurts .. i feel like i have noone too meet up with or go out with and i see pics of everyone enjoying themselves on fb and i wish i was with them... and my friend chooses her other friends oover me ... any i feel like we have practically fallen out of friendship because when i am with her she is always on her fone or checking fb ... she even arranges meeting up with her other frends on front of me ? please help , advice....


Mod Edit: I've given you your own thread OP.

I went through something similar to you when I was in secondary school. What I had to learn is to cut out the people that are not your friends. And believe me, that girl is poison for you and your confidence. She is showing you those texts to hurt you. Drop her. Regardless of your age, clubs and teams are the way to go to make real friends. Join sports teams, youth groups are great, try and go to the gaeltacht in the summer (so much fun and make amazing friends). Equally join the ones in school and outsideit :-). Look at what your interested in and then think to yourself, ok what can I do! :-).

Another note be careful of facebook, it is so dangerous, and your only torturing yourself looking at the photos. If you don't want to unfriend them, block them from your newsfeed :-) I have done it and it helps! And make sure you remember you are better than them and don't need people like that in your life, find the people you will really click with in clubs and teams ! It really does work I assure you, I changed completley after I did this, became happier and had a crazy social life, complete opposite to how I was from nasty girls in school :-) the best of luck to you !

fillefatale

Ah the angsts of secondary school, glad those days are behind me!

I would suggest you join social events in or outside of school, like a youth club, maybe even somewhere where you don't know anyone! That's nasty of those people sending those texts and those showing them to you. Unfortunately the social circle in school is so small that we don't have much of a choice in whom we befriend. I haven't seen any of my school "friends" in years and was dropped by a particularly nasty group of girls in 5th year. Best thing that happened me imo, I learnt my independence and discovered that i didn't want to be a sheep.

Have you read http://rookie.com? Its an online teen mag, with some great articles that I think you'll find relevant.

Also - fb is never all that it seems, I'd recommend that you don't spend as much time on it, it can induce social anxiety even in grown-ups!

Best of luck