Came Out to work colleagues

bikeman1

Hi guys,

A bit of background first. While I'm out to all my friends and family I never said anything about being gay to my work mate's. I have been there for a few years but never said one way or another what way I was to them. It's a professional job in a conservative industry, so I never really said anything. I only told one guy there.

Anyway last week I came out to the rest of them and it has gone great. Some were surprised, but most of all they were happy that I was comfortable with who I am and that I'm in a good relationship with my fella.

So I just wanted to post a feel good post, and say that it will be possible for you to be gay out and happy, and that's coming from a 24 guy in a conservative job, straight acting in a normal town.

Onwards and upwards I suppose,

Happy Christmas to everyone on here,

BM

jaffacakesyum

Congrats

Vojera

Yay, glad it went so well.

scullersky

Thats brilliant congrats :-)

I have a situation myself, I am starting a new job in Feb which will require me to move to Dublin..

Should I just be honest from the start and say I am gay? I guess I would kind of rather people so I wouldnt be hideing anythink but I am not sure how the other would take it!

Any advice/opinions om this would be great?

lottpaul

So I just wanted to post a feel good post, and say that it will be possible for you to be gay out and happy, and that's coming from a 24 guy in a conservative job, straight acting in a normal town.

Thats fantastic and should give great hope to lots of people in similar situations. Congratulations - and thanks for posting. Cheers us all up on a dark and miserable morning!

LoveBiscuits

Tommy-Kerry wrote: »

Thats brilliant congrats :-)

I have a situation myself, I am starting a new job in Feb which will require me to move to Dublin..

Should I just be honest from the start and say I am gay? I guess I would kind of rather people so I wouldnt be hideing anythink but I am not sure how the other would take it!

Any advice/opinions om this would be great?

When I start a new job i generally don't say which way i am unless it's brought up. I just don't feel the need for it. Like if somebody asks if you have a girlfriend or anything then sure, reply with an "actually I'm gay" kinda deal.
For instance in the job i'm currently in, the people I have lunch with and nights out with all know but nobody in my team i work on know simply because it never came up.

Also, congrats to OP

scullersky

LoveBiscuits wrote: »

When I start a new job i generally don't say which way i am unless it's brought up. I just don't feel the need for it. Like if somebody asks if you have a girlfriend or anything then sure, reply with an "actually I'm gay" kinda deal.
For instance in the job i'm currently in, the people I have lunch with and nights out with all know but nobody in my team i work on know simply because it never came up.

Also, congrats to OP

Thanks for the advice, that's probably the best option alright

Aurongroove

great news.
well done.

Walker77

LoveBiscuits wrote: »

When I start a new job i generally don't say which way i am unless it's brought up. I just don't feel the need for it. Like if somebody asks if you have a girlfriend or anything then sure, reply with an "actually I'm gay" kinda deal.
For instance in the job i'm currently in, the people I have lunch with and nights out with all know but nobody in my team i work on know simply because it never came up.

Also, congrats to OP

+1

ninty9er

It's been pretty easy for me, although I didn't bring it up until asked about a girlfriend. At induction earlier in the year in the harassment section we were tol that there are definitely gay people in the company, but perhaps they don't feel comfortable being out.

All benefits accruing to husbands and wives accrue to same sex civil partners, including healthcare, use of company cars, in-law discounts. I was pretty impressed really considering how conservative the company is in other regards.

ashers22

I almost let slip in work last week, one of the girls was talking about the new twilight movie and I was 'aww yeah, Kristen Stewart, love her'. Fortunately I managed to keep it in my head while she drooled over the sparkly lad who's name escapes me atm.
(Wouldn't mind but we're both in our 30's for shame)
Still, happily closeted in work.

edit: Robert Patterson?

lottpaul

ashers22 wrote: »

edit: Robert Patterson?

That would be the moody and broody Robert Pattinson who can sparkle and smoulder all he likes as long as we get to see Taylor Lautner

But, on topic, its such a shame we sometimes have to bite back such normal and natural comments - coming out at work does have benefits but it's not always an option for everyone.

bikeman1

Hi lads,

Great to see all the thanks on my original post. Also thanks for the kind responses. On Christmas holidays from work at the moment so, we'll see how we get on when im back next week.

I never said whether or not I had a girlfriend or boyfriend to them in work. Work is very much work and our social lives never cross. In fact I was never asked if I had a girlfriend, so that kind if shows how much people keep their private life's private.

If someone asks, do I have a girlfriend, I always tell them I have a boyfriend. But I dont go around shouting that im gay. If starting a new job, just let the question come naturally about you being gay.