Choosy/Unsure?

LegacyUser

Hey there folks,
I do not want for this to be just another girl on here asking silly questions so I will get straight to the point. When one get's tired of the same old approach of a night out a.k.a. getting a bit too merry and ending going to THAT bar with a metallic sounding name, where does one meet a guy that doesn't just want something to keep him busy at that time of night?
I am a confident person in most respects i.e. I have many hobbies, I have an active social life and for some reason (I am not unattractive either) I either seem to go for one of two options... Go out, pull, go home, awkward convo next morning, bye or go out, meet no guy, get frustrated at lack of conversation and spark and go home, breakfast in the morning with dog for company. Is it really that difficult to have a night and get a nice guys number that actually wants to see you again? Am I really going to the wrong spots? I am 24 years of age and I refuse, simply refuse to believe that in a city of 1 million people there is not one guy semi compatible with me and my personality. At a loss for what is next... Any advice will be well taken. Thanks.

Lorna123

I just think myself that you have it all going for you but the rest is just "luck". It could take days or years to meet the right person and the only thing you can do is forget about hooking up and just go out and enjoy yourself whether you go home with someone or not. It will happen when you least expect it.

ash23

Well for starters, avoid places where conversation is impossible. Ear splitting music and very drunk clientele is not going to be a good basis for getting to know someone other than to score.

There are smaller pubs with great atmosphere but where you can still hear a person trying to talk to you.

R.D. aka MR.D

You need to try a different place to meet guys.

That particular niteclub you are refering to is not the place to meet nice guys.

All my guy friends would go there with one idea in their heads. It's the place to go if you are looking for easy action.

Corcaigh84

Nope OP I'm a guy who feels somewhat similar (albeit in the second city), I find I've been stuck in a rut of going out to pubs that don't lend themselves to conversation, and the ones that do aren't exactly full of girls!

Work all week / go running to keep fit (solo or with a buddy) / go out to same pubs on the weekend cos that's where my mates go... repeat! Just gotta chill out and keep rolling the dice I suppose.... and try not to go to the same sh!teholes for drinks

dannyc31

well OP for a start not to sound like a grand dad but i would avoid doing the awkward one night stands thing for a start. it maybe 2012 and men being equal to women and all that but the truth is its really only a benefit to the man if a woman is prepared to sleep with him on a one night stand. at that stage he is likley to of lost interest.
you seem like you have alot to offer so i wouldnt be as quick to offer yourself up to men, make yourself more exclusive but not stuck up, just be nice and polite but be choosey, smile and be approachable. men tend to be cowards when it comes to the approach so you've gotta make sure you are sending out the right signals i.e. not having a big **** off sign written across your fore-head. after that its just about luck and time.

anyway you're only 24 so i wouldnt be worrying quite just yet

LegacyUser

Thanks for advice everyone. It will be easier to go into Xmas holidays with a plan to just relax!

fits

Next time you meet someone when you're out, just give him your number and ask him to call you.

Going home with a guy you've just met in a nightclub really isn't a good idea a lot of the time.

CommanderC

dannyc31 wrote: »

well OP for a start not to sound like a grand dad but i would avoid doing the awkward one night stands thing for a start. it maybe 2012 and men being equal to women and all that but the truth is its really only a benefit to the man if a woman is prepared to sleep with him on a one night stand. at that stage he is likley to of lost interest.
you seem like you have alot to offer so i wouldnt be as quick to offer yourself up to men, make yourself more exclusive but not stuck up, just be nice and polite but be choosey, smile and be approachable. men tend to be cowards when it comes to the approach so you've gotta make sure you are sending out the right signals i.e. not having a big **** off sign written across your fore-head. after that its just about luck and time.

anyway you're only 24 so i wouldnt be worrying quite just yet

I would dis agree here. I'm assuming that the OP enjoys orgasming as well.

jimd2

CommanderC wrote: »

I would dis agree here. I'm assuming that the OP enjoys orgasming as well.

I am sure she does but she doesn't sound from the post at the beginning that she is particularly enjoying the experiences anymore hence her thread.

I agree in a way with Danny....I think that the OP will need to change some things otherwise it is quite likely that the same situation will persist. They say that the definition of insanity is to continue to repeat the same actions and expect different outcomes.

I would advise to try and get into conversations and give your number to guys but do not do the 1 night stand scene for a while. Also try new places and get into new activities or clubs to increase the range of guys you are meeting.

lima

Stop looking for drunk peacock guys in cheesy nightclubs. Then you will find a nice guy.