Fake wedding?

all_smilz

Ok this is a bit whacky but we are planning on getting married and it would definitely be a civil ceremony, if we got married civilly before hand and used himself's tax cred to save we cant get married civilly again and are totally anti religious ceremonies.
Our friends told us that in spain they get married civilly and then pay an actor to marry ppl at a venue of their choosing.... It seems really daft but i was thinking if we go married at a registry and then planned our small wedding do you think we could get an actor to do our ceremony at a place of our choosing? Ideally a particular beach that is particular to us.

Would there be an legal probs with that? I dont think we would tell people as our family might be a bit put out...

Anyway- I would appreciate some thoughts on this.

aN.Droid

Why don't you have a civil ceremony?

http://onefabday.com/how-to-have-a-civil-ceremony-in-ireland/

all_smilz

Thats what we would do-Limericks.... get married "Civilly" the year before the wedding and then just have a fake ceremony with an actor ie. on a beach like we always wanted....

Peregrinus

You can have a low-key civil wedding in the registry office, sort out your finances and then have a meaningful (but not legally relevant) ceremony of your choice when and where you like.

You don't have to hire an actor, or think of the ceremony as a charade or a fake; the celebration of yoru commitment can be meaningful and important to you and your family and friends. The Humanist Association of Ireland conducts non-religious, non-legally-binding wedding ceremonies; talk to them and see if what they offer is of interest to you. Or devise and carry out a ceremony of your own; you don't necessarily have to have a celebrant at all.

Vojera

My partner and I are doing the legal bit at a different time to our "proper" ceremony. The HSE couldn't do it at a time to suit us. You'll just have to remember that for official documents the first one is the date you put for your wedding.

munchkin_utd

myself and the mrs got married in Germany which is the same as a lot of foreign countries in that the civil and religious is separate.
We did the civil with literally just ourselves and 2 friends as witnesses. Thats the date that appears on all documentation and tax forms etc.
Then did the church a month later with the 200guests and reception afterwards.

In a way the church wedding was a "fake" wedding as for all intents and purposes we were married already a month previously.
Still, its the date of the church wedding that we have engraved on our rings and that our friends and family consider as the wedding.

When you break it down, a wedding is as much about the 2 people celebrating a life together as anything else so no matter how you do it I am sure it'll work.

tatli_lokma

As Peregrinus says, this is often done, when the 'legal' bit and the 'ceremony' bit happen at different dates.

The only thing I would say is to be prepared for people to comment that it is not a 'real' wedding! Remember, civil ceremonies are becomming very popular, and a lot of people will know that if you are getting married on the beach then you must have done the legal bit elsewhere as it is not legally allowed to get married on a beach. Even if people do not know this, you will still get some of the older generation who will not consider anything outside of a church as a proper wedding! but you can't let the nay-sayers dictate how you live your life. I think its a good idea to seperate them myself, if you cannot get the date or venue you want with the HSE.

Here's a suggestion - whatever date you get officially married on, then a year (or two) later have the 'fake' ceremony on that same date. That way, regardless of which was the legal and which was the personal bit, it will still be your anniversary (ok, so the number of years will change, but at least sentimentally you won't have the 'well this is the date we really got married and this is the date we celebrated getting married').

eyescreamcone

If you get married in a civil ceremony you are officially married.
If you then wish to have a ceremony in keeping with your wishes then go for it. Actors/midgets/animals/etc
If anyone moans...to hell with them.

Best of luck and remember the most important person to please is yourself!

hoodwinked

why have an actor though? you could always ask a loved one or a friend or relative to conduct the ceremony if you are already married civilly,

in fact if you are planning on getting married civilly first why not set the date for the ceremony exactly a year later to have the same anniversary date (if but different years) for both!

tatli_lokma

hoodwinked wrote: »

in fact if you are planning on getting married civilly first why not set the date for the ceremony exactly a year later to have the same anniversary date (if but different years) for both!

I beat you to it!

Little Ted wrote: »

Here's a suggestion - whatever date you get officially married on, then a year (or two) later have the 'fake' ceremony on that same date. That way, regardless of which was the legal and which was the personal bit, it will still be your anniversary (ok, so the number of years will change, but at least sentimentally you won't have the 'well this is the date we really got married and this is the date we celebrated getting married').