New boy issue...

LegacyUser

Hey! So just started sleeping with this guy that I've known for about 6 months and recently began to fancy. We have a mutual best mate. So we've slept together on three different occasions. The issue is, he goes on for FOREVER! And comes once after literally hours of having to stop and start having sex because it gets sore. He ends in the traditional fashion. Just wondering why do people think this is? As want to bring it up with him in a non embarrassing way but we're really very new. He seems pretty keen (not to be up myself!), not sure of his recent past relationship history, or any of it for that matter! It is anything I'm doing, or not doing do you think?! I really make an effort! Thanks!!

Irish_Elect_Eng

Could it be as simple as lubrication?

Or possibly he may have an issue with Phimosis?

CaraMay

Oh god how annoying and painful... Does he think this is what you want? Maybe he is trying to impress you so just had a word in his shell like.

Esoteric_

I dated somebody like this, he took HOURS to come, literally four or five hours each time. I was exhausted and began to avoid sex because of it. :pac:

I spoke to him about it, and he spoke to his GP. Turns out it's because he wasn't sexually active before meeting me, and he had masturbated to porn so much that he got used to only one method working enough to make him come, a method that couldn't be done through penetration.

You say you're both fairly new to this, so maybe he's just used to doing it himself and sex isn't the same feeling, so it isn't working for him?

If he has problems with ejaculation, maybe he should see a doctor, though. It always helps to rule out physical or mental causes.

matt-dublin

i would say ask him to reduce his monkey spanking. he may be doing it on the days he knows he's coming going to see you to try and impress you. some lads think girls like that.

curlzy

Talk to him about it. You can't go on like this or you'll end up destroyed.

Lorna123

What you need to do is engage in a lot of foreplay before you attempt the actual act, that should do it.

LegacyUser

Hi All

Thanks for the advice and help, I will talk to him about it and see what he has to say!

LegacyUser

Hi, I went through the same situation with my ex.

Eventually I said, "look, it's really nice to go on for hours with you, but maybe we could also have some 'quickies' too? Could be good when we are tired/after work etc".

So we started having them and I think he started to notice that I enjoyed myself equally. Btw, in my case, I was the one getting sore!

msg11

Wow tuffy , we usually have the problem in reverse as in too quick ! I say the way forward is to have a chat about it with him.