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Confused with women!

  • 10-12-2012 12:15am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi there,

    Long time reader, first time poster. Firstly, I should say that I've been out of a long term relationship almost 6 months now and I'm quite happy now as there were serious flaws in it. Despite that, it was still heartbreaking to be dumped.

    While, I've been enjoying being single, I still yearn for companionship. I've always been a romantic at heart and I always have such idealistic notions of love/relationships. I'd consider myself to be a nice enough guy, I really think I was a good partner in my last relationship, she just felt that we didn't fit any longer.

    In the last while though, of the 2 girls that I've had an interest in, both of which I feel have led me on to eventually tell me that they're not interested. One of which I've spoken to directly and to her best friends and I've been told that, yes she did lead me on and she's sorry. It still makes me think though, was even part of this in my own head? Am I in such need of companionship that I'd fabricate other's emotions to try fill own need?

    Now, I suppose I would say that I'm looking for someone, something I've not had to do since I was a teenager (I'm now in my early 20's), and I'm really finding it tough. I'm not one to really have one night stands or random shifts in nightclubs (though I do go out regularly with friends). I've began to think that nice guys really finish last and what women really seem to want is an asshole. Anyone that I see finding someone seems to be quite arrogant and cocky when picking them up. I would be shy enough and definitely not arrogant (I can hardly take a complement!), but I have tried to act more confident around women, to no avail.

    Can anybody please share their experiences with this? I feel like there's some vital piece of information for life that I may have missed out on!

    Thanks a million,

    WWWWW


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  • #2
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    whowhatwhenwherewhy wrote: »

    It still makes me think though, was even part of this in my own head? Am I in such need of companionship that I'd fabricate other's emotions to try fill own need?

    WWWWW

    That is your problem right there. When you yearn for a relationship as much as you do, you tend to ignore whether the person is compatible for you. You tend to stay past the sell by date and you tend to over invest in unsuitable relationships. To stop feeling there is a hole you are trying to feel, be content with your own companionship. When you dont 'need' the companionship of others, is when you are ready for a relationship.


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