Moving kids to Dublin but they don't wnat to go.

Hannaho

Hi! I moved West to get a job, but got bullied from almost day one and had to leave. I went back to nursing and have now been offered a 9-5 job in specialist nursing, with no shift work at all. Due to start end Jan

Currently I commute to Dublin 10 days a month - I stay over four nights a month (children are with their dad on two of the nights as they are weekends), so only away from the children on 2 nights per month. However, my commute when I do single days is 1 hr 40 each way. I didn't think it would get to me, but it is, and I'm only 4 months into the comute.

My kids moved from Kilkenny to Dublin so my daughter could attend a gifted children's programme in Dublin, but neither of my children liked Dublin, particularly my son.

Now, I am afraid that if the commute takes its toll on my health, which isn't hugely great, that we might definitely have to move back to Big Somke. Yet my kids love it in the West. My daughter is thriving as it's a very small school, and the teacher has experience of working with 'gifted children' previously. My daughter hated the large classes in Dublin, and was constantly bored in school. She was reading Enid Blyton books at 5.4 months!

The commute is also costing a fortune with tolls, wear and tear on my car etc. I also wonder if I am workign too far away, will I be able to keep all eyes on my kids as teenagers. I have good childcare here, and my family is not too far away, but it is still me that will have to keep a close eye on them, as family are also very busy.

What do people think? Would it be a bad idea to moe kids again, given that they love it here, and have have moved twice since they started school? Should I just grin and bear the commute? Is it really important, especially as a single parent, to work as close as possible to one's kids as teenagers, in order to keep an eye on them?

From other posts, you will see that I have an abusive ex that I am afraid to live to near to. I have also been subjected to lots of threats in the past, and also now too, that he will get custody of the children, i.e. if I stay here, he will try to get custody as I don't live near my work. If I move back to Big Smoke, he is going to try for custody on the basis that I have moved again.

Also, after being bullied in last job, I am afraid to move for a job again in case I get bullied somewhere down the line, and have to give it up The house my auut left me is rented out, so that provides a small income at the moment. It's cheaper to live in the West and rent my aunt's house out, in case I ever have to leave a job again because of bullying.

Any advice/comment on this 'mess' would be very welcome.

Taltos

Hi Hannaho

we are closing this thread as it appears to be a variation on your last two threads.
Please do not open multiple threads on different aspects of the same issue.

Thanks
Taltos