Ask for feedback or forget it?

tk123

I interviewed for a position 6 weeks ago and have heard nothing (it's still being advertised online) - would it be sad/desperate looking of me to ask for some feedback?
As a background I got through to the final stages in this place about 6 months ago and lost out by 4 points (somebody I know works there and told me). When he called to say I didn't get it the guy said there would be another position coming up in a few months and he'd keep me informed etc etc Out of the blue he called me saying this position had come up and I was the first in for an interview. At the time the interviewers asked me when I'd like to hear back - 'obviously asap is what everyone says but what time frame would be ok' - I stupidly said a few weeks would be fine.
The recruiter was very friendly both this time and last so I'm a bit miffed to have been 'forgotten'?

SuprSi

It's not sad at all asking for feedback, I always did it when I was last looking for jobs - I feel it's important to know why I missed out on the opportunity.

The only issue is that in my experience I rarely if ever got any feedback, whether this was because the recruitment people were too busy or just not arsed responding I never knew. I suspect it was a little of both though.

kilburn

I always asked and it runs at about 50-50 as to whether or not they will give you any

starlit

Always ask for feedback I always do its the only way to learn from interviews and to get better at them and be in with a chance of ticking all the interviewers boxes. Interviews aren't getting any easier, they are getting harder compared to a few years ago, you'd get a job with less interviews back then compared to now which is a nuisance. I think getting interviews is half the battle its good that you get them at all but only way to move on from interview stage is to get feedback to know where you are at and to improve your chances of getting a job after an interview!

They don't have the obligation to give you feedback, some can be sketchy not bother or not very detailed or very little/outline the main points in feedback but some go into more detail but there will always be something to keep an eye on and improve on for future interviews its a learning experience and take whatever they say on board!

leggo

Irish people are generally horrible at giving this type of direct, constructive feedback. So you have to be sketchy about whether they even tell you the truth...if they even bother. A lot would be just inclined to tell you something along the lines of, "Oh, you did great, but someone more qualified came along!" etc.

I wouldn't personally. If you're doing it to give you one last chance of getting the job, it'll more than likely annoy them... considering you've already had your chance to wow them. And I think it's also good for you to be reflective and think of all the elements that could've cost you in an effort to perfect your interviewing technique.

You probably already have a hunch where it went wrong, so just ask yourself the hard questions and come back stronger next time.

Plus...there's still a decent chance you may still be in the running, if the position is still advertised. Employers are much more careful about getting the right person these days, so they'll take their time. Good luck, whatever happens.

tk123

The decision maker is on leave lol so fingers crossed!

Momento Mori

Irish people don't like to hurt other people's feelings. That's why there is very little communication in this country.
And by communication I don't mean the sh1t talk that we're SO good at. I mean the telling people we'll be late for
an appointment or that you just weren't the right man for the job.

Thick skin. Hope it all works out for you OP.