Help!!

Madonna2012

Need advice guys...im in a long term relationship with my girlfriend and things are kinda going belly up. We both love each other but we are constantly fighting. My girlfriend suffers from depression and her behaviour upsets me even though i know she can't help it. I get very angry at her behaviour, words etc and we seem to have lost respect for each other as we have said v hateful things to each other. I really love her and wish things could be better but im losing hope and faith in our relationship. I can't imagine being with anyone else

Jimmy Rabbitte Snr

Madonna2012 wrote: »

Need advice guys...im in a long term relationship with my girlfriend and things are kinda going belly up. We both love each other but we are constantly fighting. My girlfriend suffers from depression and her behaviour upsets me even though i know she can't help it. I get very angry at her behaviour, words etc and we seem to have lost respect for each other as we have said v hateful things to each other. I really love her and wish things could be better but im losing hope and faith in our relationship. I can't imagine being with anyone else

Not trying to sound funny but a good start would be to say the above to her. And if you haven't already, try learn more about and understand her mental illness. Depression is a horrible illness to suffer from or have to live with. If you love her like you say you do, help her. If she won't accept your help or doesn't love you any more then at least you can say you gave it your all. I wish you luck because it's going to take some work. But if it's worth saving......

Madonna2012

I have said all the above to her I am very verbal about any issues. I have educated myself a lot about depression and even guided her to go to counselling. But I feel worn out to be honest. I feel like I am trying to keep everything going. I feel it's hard to distinguish sometimes if a person is being selfish outside of the depression?? She has said im speaking to her all the time lately in an angry tone and i disrespect her but I honestly feel like it's when we are stressed we sometimes take it out on our partner but she is feeling like it's completely directed at her even when I have told her it's not im just stressed with work,kids, house managing it all.

Jimmy Rabbitte Snr

It's a very tricky situation with mental illness and one I wouldn't pretend to know a whole lot about. Unfortunately it's not as black and white in your relationship. It sound a bit like you're walking on eggshells a bit too. It would be easy for someone to tell you to walk away as you've given your all but if she can control her illness then things could get back to normal. How long has it been since she was diagnosed with depression? Has your wife told you that she still loves you?

Madonna2012

We aren't married meant to be getting engaged in the spring for valetines. Legally she will be my civil partner but yes my wife Yes she tells me regularly taht she loves me...now today she said that she feels like the love is fading cos of the way im speaking to her....she v senstive and im quite blunt!! Gemini & Pisces :O