Sexting?

Jessiegirl

What's the opinion on this? Is it ok before first meeting... and what about in relationships? Just chat like, no pics or anything.

There is nothing wrong with dirty texting. Some people like it, some don't, so it all depends on the other person entirely. As for doing it before a first meeting, again - depends on the other person.

Though some additional information would be good -
Are you the person who wants to initiate the dirty texting or are you the person they are trying to initiate it with?

You ask what about relationships - well, that depends, do you mean doing it with the person you're in a relationship with, then it's absolutely fine and can even add another level of enjoyment to it. However, if you are in a relationship (or someone you're in a relationship with) and dirty texting is involved with someone else, then that's when it's wrong.

Jessiegirl

Generally men start it, it alters the tone a bit but on one hand nice to know someone is interested in sex. Believe me some men are not very sexual strangely enough. I only asked about realtionships out of pure curiosity as I don't think I ever did it in one, happy with the real thing, yes I know it would be wrong if it was done with someone else then.

Jessiegirl

Jessiegirl wrote: »

What's the opinion on this? Is it ok before first meeting... and what about in relationships? Just chat like, no pics or anything.

OP as this forum is for giving advice, I need to ask if this is actually a personal issue for you?
thanks

Jessiegirl

It is

I'm not sure what the issue is in this specific thread, but if you are uncomfortable with dirty texting, yet the other person still carries on, then they're not worth your time.

Jessiegirl

Want to know what people, particularly men think, it's not a life and death matter or course, is it acceptable, what does it mean. It's rife, well I get it a lot.

P. Breathnach

I think it is unwise to exchange naughty messages with somebody that you don't know very well. Consider the possibility that what you send might be shared with his friends.

[Edit: in view of your latest post, I am giving you a male point of view. Some men share more information with their friends than I think is appropriate, often to boost their egos - but I'm a bit of an old-fashioned fuddy-duddy.]

Jessiegirl

Jessiegirl wrote: »

It is

OP, you really need to get into more detail about how this is an issue for you or I will have to close this. Is someone texting you? Are you unsure about whether to text someone you're interested in? This isn't the place for a general discussion.

PM one of the mods with this if you want thread reopened.
Thanks

daisybelle2008

Jessiegirl wrote: »

Want to know what people, particularly men think, it's not a life and death matter or course, is it acceptable, what does it mean. It's rife, well I get it a lot.

I am not clear on your exact personal issue? Is it that you want other peoples opinions on how you should feel in a given situation that may arise?

Maybe just do what is comfortable for you. Everyone is different, men and women, take each situation on its merit and do what feels right to you.

I would add that it is always better to look to yourself for what feels comfortable and right for you, you are going to get a mixed bag of what you should or shouldn't do with a vague hypothetical question with unclear relevance.