Anyone ever had to cut someone out

TeddyTedson

I've never done this personally but I'm wondering if many people actually have?
There's someone I could really do with cutting all ties with but they're in my group of friends so what would be the best way to go about it.
This person has robbed me in the past and spread lies about me for no reason which I've only heard through other people:mad:
Is there no real way if I'm going to keep hanging out with the same friends?

Praetorian Saighdiuir

I'm not sure what you said, you are on the ignore list

Sky King

There was a dude in my chest who looked like Marty Morrissey who kept going on about 'starting the reactor'. I ended up having to cut him out.

smash

Gotye...

kfallon

Your lifestory is gonna be one major Hollywood Blockbuster Ned :P

Pottler

It depends on how bad the risk of fire is. If she's gonna blow soon, I'd rush in with the tin snips, if not, sure someone else can get them.

donvito99

Go down to Tie Rack with him with a pair of scissors and bob's your microwave.

There's someone I could really do with cutting all ties with

Gummy Panda

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I've never done this personally but I'm wondering if many people actually have?
There's someone I could really do with cutting all ties with but they're in my group of friends so what would be the best way to go about it.
This person has robbed me in the past and spread lies about me for no reason which I've only heard through other people:mad:
Is there no real way if I'm going to keep hanging out with the same friends?

What they rob?

flutterflye

Myself and the other girl stopped talking entirely after a massive bust up one day.
Some people took her side and were horrible to me.
Some took my side but weren't horrible to her though because I didn't go about whispering in their ears spreading all sorts of lies.
Some managed to remain neutral, and we would both see them when the other wasn't there.
Bit awkward, but doable.

Celly Smunt

This sounds like the entire series of breaking bad.

phasers

I don't understand this. If you don't like someone just stop talking to them. Why do people tolerate people they hate? Everyone in my college does this too, they're always complaining about each other but they act like best buddies when they're all together. Be honest!

And if your other friends want to hang out with a thief and a lair then they're not worth your time either.


This may be why I only have 4 friends. But they're 4 awesome friends damnit

rolliepoley

Rumours mean nothing but as for robbing me i would cut their heads off.

Conmaicne Mara

I make no bones about doing that if it needs doing. Done it to a family member after something particularly deplorable was said. That's that, life is too 'effing short to put up with some people. Get it done and move on.

charlemont

Yea I cut heaps of people out, Our lives were going in different directions..

Anyway if he robbed you and spoke badly of you then he deserves to be cut out, We have all had **** people around us at some stage but as you get sense you get real friends and cut the crap out.

Frederica Beauregard

When I was young, I seen a photo in newspaper of David Ginola wearing no shirt and just shorts and so I cut him out.

Gummy Panda

phasers wrote: »

I don't understand this. If you don't like someone just stop talking to them. Why do people tolerate people they hate? Everyone in my college does this too, they're always complaining about each other but they act like best buddies when they're all together. Be honest!

And if your other friends want to hang out with a thief and a lair then they're not worth your time either.


This may be why I only have 4 friends. But they're 4 awesome friends damnit

Drawing smiley faces on your right hand fingers doesn't not make them your friends

phasers

Gummy Panda wrote: »

Drawing smiley faces on your right hand fingers doesn't not make them your friends

What about my left hand?

Madam_X

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I've never done this personally but I'm wondering if many people actually have?
There's someone I could really do with cutting all ties with but they're in my group of friends so what would be the best way to go about it.
This person has robbed me in the past and spread lies about me for no reason which I've only heard through other people:mad:
Is there no real way if I'm going to keep hanging out with the same friends?

If theyre in your group of friends you can only learn to live with it and avoid them as much as possible.

Shryke

I've done it and I recommend it. No more negative drag or stuff to put up with. It's taking charge of your life tbh.
If the person in question negatively effects you then cut them out like a cancer. There's always a bit of fallout but if you just be you then it won't touch you much. You might learn something about yourself even, getting proactive about these things really makes you define yourself.

I'm aware this probably looks silly on the internet but if the guy has stolen from you and spread dirt about you you are well within your right to follow him into a public bathroom and make him lick the bowl of a toilet and then flush his head in it.

TeddyTedson

Gummy Panda wrote: »

What they rob?

Money from my wallet.


I still have most of the same friends now I've had since I was as kid so it would be hard to just cut people out. I would like rid of this one though.
He made up things about me that have no truth what so ever, not just exaggerating things, actual nonsense that he doesn't gain anything from, it just makes me look bad. But people sort of know he does this now so I wouldn't worry too much about that anymore.

I'll need to start a smear campaign against him myself or something:rolleyes:

TeddyTedson

Shryke wrote: »

I've done it and I recommend it. No more negative drag or stuff to put up with. It's taking charge of your life tbh.
If the person in question negatively effects you then cut them out like a cancer. There's always a bit of fallout but if you just be you then it won't touch you much. You might learn something about yourself even, getting proactive about these things really makes you define yourself.

I'm aware this probably looks silly on the internet but if the guy has stolen from you and spread dirt about you you are well within your right to follow him into a public bathroom and make him lick the bowl of a toilet and then flush his head in it.

I'm too mellow to go around hitting people.
Now that I read it back I wonder what people would have to do to me before I actually wouldn't talk to them again. It's never happened for me.
I really should start keep things to myself on this site.

Neewbie_noob

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I've never done this personally but I'm wondering if many people actually have?
There's someone I could really do with cutting all ties with but they're in my group of friends so what would be the best way to go about it.
This person has robbed me in the past and spread lies about me for no reason which I've only heard through other people:mad:
Is there no real way if I'm going to keep hanging out with the same friends?

But you didn't have to cut me off - Goyte

boomkatalog

I've cut out an ex, a boardsie and a one time best friend. Mutual friends remained nuetral at the time,most have drifted from her since. Some people sap the life out of you, you don't owe them anything!

Witchie

Kinda in a situation like that at the moment myself with a girl that just totally wrecks my head. We all hang out together but I just want to punch her hard in the face everytime I see her but instead I just smile and pretty much ignore her. It does cause some tension and meant that even though to of my other friends cant stand her but are better at being nice to her they all went away on a great weekends craic last weekend and I wasnt invited (couldnt have gone anyway but still would have been nice to be asked) coz it was a mutual friend of the girl that I cant stand who organised it.

Be prepared for some awkward moments but there is no point in being fake and putting up with someone you cant stand.

Shryke

TeddyTedson wrote: »

I'm too mellow to go around hitting people.
Now that I read it back I wonder what people would have to do to me before I actually wouldn't talk to them again. It's never happened for me.
I really should start keep things to myself on this site.

No sane person goes around thumping people to be fair. I've been backed into a corner and then gone for it..
Honest advice, cut them out and see how it plays. It's for your own well being. You only need to make the choice and then that's it, the dynamic has changed. You know your own situation best anyway, whatever you do about it.

Esoteric_

I've cut all contact with 2 people after they did really awful things to me. It was hard, because I didn't want to do it. Now, 5-6 years on, I'm delighted that I did.

Scruffles

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Money from my wallet.


I still have most of the same friends now I've had since I was as kid so it would be hard to just cut people out. I would like rid of this one though.
He made up things about me that have no truth what so ever, not just exaggerating things, actual nonsense that he doesn't gain anything from, it just makes me look bad. But people sort of know he does this now so I wouldn't worry too much about that anymore.

I'll need to start a smear campaign against him myself or something:rolleyes:

was he a alchie/junkie? those addictions can make anyones nearest and dearest steal from them, mum did it for years when she was in charge of all finances of mine as legal guardian.
his illogical lying coud be symptom of a mental issue,it does depend on the circumstances and whether think he is worth saving or not as everyone can go through bad times in their life.

have never had friends other than online-the only one that thought did have was
inhuman,was deliberately targeted by him; he pretended to have the same level of autism by using information of mine and others to come off as someone relateable, he stole information off blog and forum posts of mine and used it as his own experiences to gain attention and sympathy.
he woud ask what medications/aids/specialist services etc was using for the autism and the next day he woud suddenly be posting about having or using them all.
he started bullying to,using sockpuppet accounts-and then afterwards asking what the bullying felt like.
he heavily used a method called 'pyschological projection'; projecting his own faults and behaviors onto mine;so he was portrayed as the bullying victim and he mirrored what he was doing onto mine;was libelled,threatened and 'gas lighted' on many ocasions, was also stalked by him across forums and had threatening feedback left by him.
he was very spiteful and jealous of the services am using and the support that get, he spewed hate towards it in every way he coud as well as trying to spread doubt in the community of diagnoses of mine.
he faked disabilities and illnesses on many forums to gain attention,woud manipulate his way onto higher authority and took advantage of it.
he abused alternative communication videos of mine in an attempt to get them taken down which speech therapists of mine had found on the net and called around to thank for making them,took them down because of the damage working its way in.

-this went on for several years,until allies of mine on a forum we were both on confirmed what was going on.
he had long triggered severe clinical depression and severe pyschosis; at the point of being assessed was told woud have been sectioned that day for it if had not been living in residential care.
some years later am still pyschotic and depressed,and extremely cynical of people.
found out he had been diagnosed with borderline PD,narcissistic PD,and pyschopathic tendencies.
-the only friend have ever had,put off them completely for life.

1ZRed

Gummy Panda wrote: »

What they rob?

His virginity

Ah, already been explained

Gummy Panda

1ZRed wrote: »

His virginity

Ah, already been explained

You stoke teddy's virginity?

TeddyTedson

Gummy Panda wrote: »

You stoke teddy's virginity?

Come again?

tayto lover

You need to tackle this person head-on and stop beating about the bush. Confront the person and say what's on your mind. Tell them what you think of them and why you distrust and have no time for them. Better to have it out for once and for all. Do it in private. It might just clear the air and at least they'll know where you stand.

Gran Hermano

My siamese twin.

mtjm

I've done that myself cut out couple of friends. The old saying goes I've a few acquaintances but no real friends. Family are only ones that are more important

Chuck Stone

I cut a dude out with sharp shiny steel.

Porkchop McGee

Prune regularly like a plant, cut the negative ****ehawks out of your life and don't think twice about it.

El Horseboxo

I had to do it before with somebody. I only knew them a few years but were part of a good group of friends. I had a well equipped gym out my backyard that i let friends use when i was around. One or two had a key and they would let some of our other friends in with my permission. Anyways i discovered one of the lads was hiding bags of ecstasy and coke in my shed. Bastard had been selling them but was using my gym as storage. He knew my plan was to go back to the US and pursue a law enforcement career and that would have totally messed up my chances had it came to light. So he had to go. All my other friends knew him years and as i completely cut him out there and then there was kind of a divide as he began making stuff up about me. I never told anyone about what he done up to that point. So i went to 2 of my closest friends and i explained everything. Gradually he became more isolated as the truth spread and eventually he was just someone they'd say alright to when walking by. If you've got a good group of friends they'll see the sense in your actions.

HowAreWe

Yes I have.
This one person lied about everything to everyone, an example would be about having a certain type of cancer,that was the icing on the cake. A complete attention seeking sick bastard.....

I started simply by ignoring his arrival every single time he was in the same room as me and if he spoke to me I'd actually just ignore him or smile but not say anything then straight away talk to somebody else. He eventually got the message and stopped trying with me, gradually not going somewhere if he found out I was there. It took months, but was well worth not having to deal with this person. Eventually my other friends realized we were better off without this person too.

Spiritual

As I get older I find that I more willing to confront people and/or just tell them to fúck off. It seems to have concluded with me being a lot happier as a person.

Life is too short to be dealing with people who cause you any upset.

Gummy Panda

Teddy just get a kaiser blade

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAgSUFT4cVk

green_dub_girl

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Money from my wallet.


I still have most of the same friends now I've had since I was as kid so it would be hard to just cut people out. I would like rid of this one though.
He made up things about me that have no truth what so ever, not just exaggerating things, actual nonsense that he doesn't gain anything from, it just makes me look bad. But people sort of know he does this now so I wouldn't worry too much about that anymore.

I'll need to start a smear campaign against him myself or something:rolleyes:

I recommend cutting him out. Keep drama to a minimum so that other friends aren't in the middle. I had to do this with a long term friend a few years ago and it was the best decision. Just stop phoning/texting/ answering calls.

In group situations stick with the friends who make you feel good about yourself and try pretend that person isn't there. May be necessary to exchange brief niceties, but you will feel so much better to not have to put up with the drag of someone like that any more.

nocoverart

OP nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. If your friends in the same circle mean that much to you, you're gonna have to put this guy straight or ignore him as best you can. TBH it doesn't sound like these friends of yours are that great if they let him make you feel this bad.

leonidas83

just try & be an adult about it OP, be civil to them when u have to but ignore them otherwise. Sounds like they have issues already & this will inevitably come out whether your involved or not.

I cant see you cutting them out of your life altogether as they hang around with similar friends but just try to be mature about it, dont bitch or talk about them to your other friends & they wont be long in seeing who the true c*** is in all of this.

Anyways there will always be people like this in life that are difficult to completely avoid either at work or socially. Better off just accepting this sad fact & making sure they dont get the opportunity to f*** u over

spoofilyj

Ya I had a friend who had lots of issues, he was in therapy for his parents divorce and his dad was a recovering alcholic.

He used to play his parents off each other to get more money from both of them, this was when we were 20/21 and most of the rest of the group all had jobs during college, this guy had a grant and always seemed to have cash.

He used to get nasty when drinking and then keep drinking until he would start crying about how hard his life was etc etc.

I tried to talk to him about the excessive drinking and personality change when he was sober a good few times and he would say he had it under control with therapy but then would repeat previous behaviour again.

He also always had to get his own way and this got old very quickly.
I knew the guy for about five years and he was great fun for a long time but changed into an abusive drunk.

Anyway at one BBQ all the friends were there and even before everyone had arrived he had half a bottle of gin drank and was planning on drinking a case of beer for the rest of the evening ( he was a 18 stone 5 ft 9 guy)
He got really drunk and said nasty things to some of the girls and some of my other close friends and eventually started on me.
At this stage I had had a few beers too and just lost the rag with him and he squared up for a fight, it took every fiber of my being not to punch him and I simply said, thats it we're done!
That was July 2008

I havent regretted it once and am glad to have a liability cut out of my life, all the others that were friends with us are no longer friends with him at this stage.
If someone is making you feel like crap about your self then drop them.

jester77

Best friend of over 30 years, not seen or spoken to him in 2 years. Long story short, he had arranged a secret meet up with my gf, except I turned up instead. Haven't seen him since that evening.

toexpress

My so called best mate and myself fell out a while back because I went on a date with someone he had gone on a few dates (5 in total) with a good few months previous

Anyway it seems he is running round bitching about me but so be it anyone who buys into it I can do without anyway! Yours will be a similar situation

BorneTobyWilde

Gummy Panda wrote: »

What they rob?

His virginity

davetherave

I was expecting tales of boardsies running around the place with bolt cutters, wire snips and/or hand saws; not this.

TeddyTedson

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

His virginity

Come again...

jester77 wrote: »

Best friend of over 30 years, not seen or spoken to him in 2 years. Long story short, he had arranged a secret meet up with my gf, except I turned up instead. Haven't seen him since that evening.

OMG that's unreal!
Did you break up with the GF too?

1ZRed

Gummy Panda wrote: »

You stoke teddy's virginity?

You see, the way I see it there are two types of virginity.. :pac:

Shryke

Teddy prefers alien love? :eek:

Mince Pie

HowAreWe wrote: »

Yes I have.
This one person lied about everything to everyone, an example would be about having a certain type of cancer,that was the icing on the cake. A complete attention seeking sick bastard.....

I started simply by ignoring his arrival every single time he was in the same room as me and if he spoke to me I'd actually just ignore him or smile but not say anything then straight away talk to somebody else. He eventually got the message and stopped trying with me, gradually not going somewhere if he found out I was there. It took months, but was well worth not having to deal with this person. Eventually my other friends realized we were better off without this person too.

Do we know the same person? Knew someone years ago who told everyone he had cancer. Didn't. Knobber!!