Problem in relationship

LegacyUser

I am an 19 year old girl going to college, in a relationship with a 18 year old lad also going to college. We have been together about 8 months. We get on great, we practically live together in student accomadation. I am starting to feel like he dosent put much time or effort into our relationship. Id love to be brought to the cinema, out for a meal or even just a walk in the park. Just normal couple things. He is just mad into bodybuilding (goes to gym every day), playing rugby and getting drunk with his friends. I dont know if I am coming across as too clingy but I just want to do couple things. I was saying it to a few of my firends but they just said why was I complaning when he is handsome and has a great body. We have sex all the time which is amazing, sometimes we would even go home between lectures for it. Other times then he is just in the gym or playing sport. I am getting bored of it now though. I just think there is more to a relationship. I dont want to say it too him though, because I am afraid I will lose him. Does anyone have any advice?

Stavro Mueller

I don't want to be negative here but is there a chance he's just keeping you onside for the sex? Do ye ever go anywhere or do anything outside of campus or the bedroom?

I think you should say something. If he genuinely cares about you and has just let that end of things slide, he'll make changes. If he only wants you for sex, then why would you want to stay with him?

ManOfMystery

This sounds more like a friends-with-benefits/fcuk-buddy type setup, than a proper girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. I think you need to have a chat with him to see exactly how he defines your relationship.

tinkerbell

OP, do you have any sort of interaction at all with your bf other than sex? Do you never go out for dinner, cinema, out for a few drinks at all? If not, then I agree with the others - sounds like you're just having sex and that's it which is not a real relationship.

curlzy

Sounds more like a f*ckbuddy than a boyfriend.

sffc

You are entitled to want the sort of relationship you want - as is he. The problem is the apparent gulf between your expectations . Make yours known to him asap with a time limit in mind - say a month. Do not tell him about this time limit. If you are happy with the improvements (if any) after this month - stay or if not go . Its really that simple .