Making gay friends

Petey89

So im gay and in a relationship but I have 0 gay friends all my friends are straight and i love them but I wouldnt mind knowing some gay people. I have been on nights out with gay lads that my bf knows but that didnt go very far they didnt want any newbies coming into there group and they werent my kinda people, I would be very straight acting like going out for a few pints with the lads but I seem to be one of the few gays that like that haha! I tried looking on tagged just to chat with people but deleted my account soon after i made it fellas on that just wanted sex not friendships, which i kinda guessed would be the case. anyone else been in a similar situation?

floggg

Petey89 wrote: »

So im gay and in a relationship but I have 0 gay friends all my friends are straight and i love them but I wouldnt mind knowing some gay people. I have been on nights out with gay lads that my bf knows but that didnt go very far they didnt want any newbies coming into there group and they werent my kinda people, I would be very straight acting like going out for a few pints with the lads but I seem to be one of the few gays that like that haha! I tried looking on tagged just to chat with people but deleted my account soon after i made it fellas on that just wanted sex not friendships, which i kinda guessed would be the case. anyone else been in a similar situation?

You really aren't all that rare, trust me. Some of us even watch sports while drinking said pints!

Anyway, your best bet to met gay friends is to join a gay sports or social club. There's loads of them, though obviously there's more choice if you are in Dublin.

What are your interests (apart from pints) and where are you based?

Petey89

im not into sports, i didnt really think I was rare just any gay people iv met recently just dont have similar interests and were a little camp and that not an insult or anything I dont mind how people act just like my friends to be straight acting like myself.
Im based in waterford, ineterests hmmmm... well i like cars, movies, computer games just your typical kinda stuff really.

1ZRed

Petey89 wrote: »

im not into sports, i didnt really think I was rare just any gay people iv met recently just dont have similar interests and were a little camp and that not an insult or anything I dont mind how people act just like my friends to be straight acting like myself.
Im based in waterford, ineterests hmmmm... well i like cars, movies, computer games just your typical kinda stuff really.

I'm not straight acting, I'm masculine and just one of the lads. Pretty much similar interests, cars, fitness, drinking, fecking around and playing the odd video game (though lately I find that pastime boring as fuck)

I think you should try to meet more gay guys through other friends, not necessarily your boyfriends and join some groups of you can. I know you said you're not into sport but I'd say that just means you wouldn't be into the typical sports like football, soccer, rugby, hurling etc.
There's a heap more you could try out and get into surfing, kayaking, swimming, track. Theres a sport out there for anyone and it'd be a great place to meet other masculine guys as well as make more straight friends if it's not gay orientated.

If you're out of college and wouldn't be in that sort of "pile of young people around you" atmosphere, then that's the way to go in terms of making gay friends, imo.
But you'd need to put in the effort to meet them too, and not be so quick to shoot them down. I notice a lot of guys that are so insistent on "straight-acting" are very very picky and critical on what it is to pass that standard. Fair enough I'd be way, way more compatible with masc guys too, but if I held that test to my straight mates, I'd be comming up as a bit more masculine then quite lot of them, even though we'd all just be a typical pack of lads.

Petey89

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm not straight acting, I'm masculine and just one of the lads. Pretty much similar interests, cars, fitness, drinking, fecking around and playing the odd video game (though lately I find that pastime boring as fuck)

I think you should try to meet more gay guys through other friends, not necessarily your boyfriends and join some groups of you can. I know you said you're not into sport but I'd say that just means you wouldn't be into the typical sports like football, soccer, rugby, hurling etc.
There's a heap more you could try out and get into surfing, kayaking, swimming, track. Theres a sport out there for anyone and it'd be a great place to meet other masculine guys as well as make more straight friends if it's not gay orientated.

If you're out of college and wouldn't be in that sort of "pile of young people around you" atmosphere, then that's the way to go in terms of making gay friends, imo.
But you'd need to put in the effort to meet them too, and not be so quick to shoot them down. I notice a lot of guys that are so insistent on "straight-acting" are very very picky and critical on what it is to pass that standard. Fair enough I'd be way, way more compatible with masc guys too, but if I held that test to my straight mates, I'd be comming up as a bit more masculine then quite lot of them, even though we'd all just be a typical pack of lads.

your right about the video games lately im just bored with my ps3 and xbox. I wouldnt be picky about friends, I wouldnt be overly masculine or anything just an ordinary dude, I would be kinda shy too when it comes to new people. A lot of the people here are just yound students im in my early 20s but id be mature enough for my age most of my friends would be a bit older than me. Guna have to look around an see if there are any groups or activities around here.