Need Advice!

Amethyst2011

I have been on and off online dating since Jan '08. Had a good few dates and even dated few guys in that 4+ years...but every one of them ended in tears for me. I am now offline and seeing this guy who lives 50 mins drive from me. I work my weekly hours in 3 days so I have time to meet him but he works an 80 week of his own choosing. It could be 6 weeks before we meet sometimes. Also when we first started dating he rang a lot even though he was busy...text me every night...and seemed very keen. That's all gone now. And if I suggest meeting he just says 'I'll let you know how work is tomorrow' but never does. He is a lovely guy but am I being a utter fool here trying to give this a chance when he is not acting like he want to?? I am disheartened and confused....and worse thing of all...I like him a lot. Any advice?

shiftkey

Keep looking for 'Mr.Right' while you are seeing 'Mr.Probably Not', and don't fret anymore about him as he is soo seeing other people!

Amethyst2011 wrote: »

I have been on and off online dating since Jan '08. Had a good few dates and even dated few guys in that 4+ years...but every one of them ended in tears for me. I am now offline and seeing this guy who lives 50 mins drive from me. I work my weekly hours in 3 days so I have time to meet him but he works an 80 week of his own choosing. It could be 6 weeks before we meet sometimes. Also when we first started dating he rang a lot even though he was busy...text me every night...and seemed very keen. That's all gone now. And if I suggest meeting he just says 'I'll let you know how work is tomorrow' but never does. He is a lovely guy but am I being a utter fool here trying to give this a chance when he is not acting like he want to?? I am disheartened and confused....and worse thing of all...I like him a lot. Any advice?

Stavro Mueller

In my experience, if someone's interested they'll be making sure they see you, they'll call, they'll text. It really is worth looking at what this man is doing, rather than what he's saying. So in other words, he isn't calling you any more. He's fobbing you off with excuses. I assume it has been a while since you met. Does any of this suggest a man who really likes his girlfriend and can't wait to talk to her again. You've done the running and he isn't reciprocating your effort. What does that sound like to YOU?

I'd also be a bit suspicious. Are you sure he's not married or has a girlfriend? Something about this sounds a bit off.

sullies

IMO I don't think he is interested. Like the others l am a little suspicious and would question whether he has a partner or wife. I just think that hardly any contact and not seeing each other some time just confirms your worst fears that he is just not interested enough.

curlzy

I'm with the others. Doesn't sound like he's that into you, why bother with someone like that? Cut contact and delete would be my advise and I wouldn't bother notifying him either.

shiftkey

curlzy wrote: »

I'm with the others. Doesn't sound like he's that into you, why bother with someone like that? Cut contact and delete would be my advise and I wouldn't bother notifying him either.

Ah Curlzy, that's a bit harsh. The girl said she like's the guy so at the very least she should face it out with him and ask him what he wants from their relationship, and she should tell him that she just wants honesty, and that if it's just casual to him then that's fine with her (or not) but at least she wont be under an illusion of it meaning more to her than him. Whaddya think, am I right or am I right?

Amethyst2011

Thanks for your replies guys. Meeting him Sunday evening so will let you know how our chat goes! :-)