middle child

blogger123

im a middle child and im treated like **** everythingi do and say has no meaning my brother has got everything handed to him they gave him a loan for a house he was driving a **** car and he didnt like it so they bought him a new one... they were paying his morgage for half the year he has a serious drink problem he drinks everyday a violent scumbag he is he attacks his wife treatend her throws stuff at her and my parents thinks everything is ok. when i bring it up they cant say anythin about it or they start shouting about something stupid and turn it on me i drink twice a week when i have my day off i sit it have a few watch tv with my gf and now were put into the same category as him were turning into a alcholic and when my gf confronted them they bassically laughed about it im in a rage

edellc

OP this has nothing to do with you being a middle child, this is to do with your older brother having serious issues which from your post it seems your parents feel responsible for. Probably down to them handing everything to him on a plate, he has no sense of responsibility, or how to help himself and how to treat everyone around him...they obviously havent a clue how to help him and instead throw money at the problem hoping it will go away.

You on the other hand have to work for what you have and I bet when you get it you look after it and appreciate it, you treat your girlfriend well (I hope) so therefore you do not take her for granted and know how to treat another human being...you OP have morals and a sense of self that your brother doesnt have.

Yes you feel a sense of injustice but seriously would you want to be him...seriously would you...he is more to be pitied than anything else so stop comparing yourself to him and what he gets to what you dont..yes he gets money but appreciating what you have in life is something money can not buy.

As for your girlfriend if I was your parents I'd laugh at her too, its none of her business so keep her nose out, what your parents do with their money is their business not yours and certainly not your girlfriends if you feel unfairly treated by your family its you that has to speak up. But I do think your parents probably know how you feel but are helpless to do anything as all their energy is focused on the f*cked up child and not the one with the level head.

Also you obviously have a younger brother, any chance he feels towards you what you feel towards your older brother.....

woodchuck

This has nothing to do with you being a middle child.

The amount of threads that have siblings being treated differently by parents is unreal! But what they do with their own money is their own business. It might seem unfair, but just be grateful that you don't need to go to them for handouts. And naturally they're not going to want to hear anything negative about your brother... again, I'd just leave my nose out of it. You've nothing to gain here.

The violence your brother directs towards his wife is a whole separate issue. Unfortunately I'm not sure what advice to give you there... at the end of the day it's up to his wife to walk out of that abusive relationship. Are you friends with her at all? If not I'm not sure what you can do really... I'm no expert, but often victims of abuse need a lot of strength (from within themselves, but encouragement from others helps) to leave their abusive partners. Maybe you could report him anonymously to the police? Sorry I hope somebody else can give better advice on this, because to me this is the real issue that sticks out in the post.

tony81

Op, if you're a teenager, don't worry.. life is not fair. Coming to terms with that is all part of growing up.

If you're in your twenties, well, maybe it's time to grow up a little. If you're living at home and don't like it you can always move out.