Sexual Mental Block

The Irish Riddler

I finished up with a long term girlfriend about a year ago.

Went through a spell where I wasn't on the hunt.

I'm back looking for Ms Right Now but when I get a girl into bed I immediately get performance anxiety which kills any hope of an erection especially when its the first or second time with a girl.

This is becoming a major problem and each failed attempt is on my mind the next time I'm walking up the stairs with a girl.

I have no problems getting a solid erection alone which leads me to believe its completely a mental block.


What can I do? Any mental tricks to help me out so I'm not thinking about how embarrasing it will be to not be able to get it up.

At this stage I'm reluctant to even go on the pull.

The Irish Riddler

Add on:

I have been off the booze for 6 months and smoke 2 or 3 cigarrettes a day. Diet is fairly poor - bar oysters what foods are good for this?

Vicxas

I dont think its a dietary issue that you are having, sounds to me like you are mentally psyching yourself out.

It can happen to a lot of guys where they lose and erection due to anxiety over performing. The most important thing is to remember that you can do this, you've done it a million times before and that this girl is in bed because she likes you for you.

So relax and try not to overthink it, as my guess is that its the overthinking is whats killing you.

cafecolour

It often happens to me when I've had a one nighter, so I don't have them.

If I go on a few dates first and feel comfortable with someone first, then it's less likely to happen.

If it happens, I generally say something like 'Sorry, I'm often nervous the first time.' or such and then ignore it, and keep kissing, etc. Don't just stop and ask depressed. Sleeping over can also be good, because you can often wake up in the morning ready to go, so to speak.

You can also try talking to a GP about enhancement meds, though I don't think they do much for anxiety based problems.